Although the Union Law minister ensures that all cases will be run on priority , it seems nothing more than a bubble of water. The Law minister is good for nothing except but making false promises. He assured of Judicial Accountability nearly 2 years back , well but all know the present situations too.
Flukes !!!
Union Law Minister M Veerappa Moily today said all the courts in the country would be brought on “fast track” to dispose of cases within three years under a “revolutionary” legal reforms process involving an expenditure of Rs 15,000 crore in five years.
“In future, all the courts should come on fast track. Fast track courts cannot work in isolation,” Moily told reporters while summarizing the proceedings of a meeting of the Northern region. The meeting was held to discuss utilization of the Rs 5,000 crore recommended by the 13th Finance Commission for judicial reforms.
Among those who attended the meeting were High Court Chief Justices or their representatives and law and finance ministers from Punjab, Haryana, Uttarakhand, Uttar Pradesh, Himachal Pradesh, Jammu and Kashmir and Delhi.
Moily said the Centre would provide an additional Rs 9,500 crore as one-time allocation, over and above the Finance Commission recommendations, for setting up 12,000 courts more by 2012, for filling up vacancies in courts and augmentation of infrastructure facilities of the judiciary.
Similar regional consultations had already been held in the East, North East and South and the last in the series would be held soon in Goa for the West. After this, guidelines would be issued for fund utilisation. The entire programme would be implemented on a war-footing, the Minister said.
He, however, made it clear that there was no consensus so far on the proposed formation of an All India Judicial Service. “There is no unanimity and we do not want to impose it. Consultations will continue with all the stake-holders.” The Justice Department in his ministry would prepare a paper for larger discussion. “Any decision will be taken only after due deliberations and consultations.”
The village courts being set up under the Gram Nyayalaya scheme was turning out to be a “movement” involving more and more mobile courts, including on running trains. The plan for the release of undertrial prisoners was proceeding well, with 1.6 lakh such prisoners already set free against the target of two lakhs. The idea was to reduce the number of undertrials in jails by two-third — from three lakh to one lakh.
There was also a plan to train public prosecutors on a priority basis. States would be allowed flexibility to prepare their own priority lists for the reform process. Litigants embroiled in family disputes would not have to approach different courts as there would be a single-window facility soon with just one family court handling all sorts of such cases. As announced by Prime Minister Manmohan Singh recently, 71 additional CBI courts would be set up in the country to dispose of corruption cases on “highest priority”.
Clarifications could not be sought from the Minister as he did not take any questions. He, however, maintained that the proposals would make the country’s judicial system the best in the world.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Thursday, June 17, 2010
JUSTICE DHINGRA BLASTS POLICE
Rarest of the rare - Mr. Dhingra is one person who is doing justice to his position as a JUDGE.
JAI HO !!! Justice Dhingra
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"Its unfortunate that elopement cases are converted into rape cases. Your police
is party in all cases of honour killings. You connive with parents and turn your
face the other side. You send boys behind bars on rape charges and allow the
parents to kill their daughter.
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"How can you be so insensitive for a few bucks? In case of elopement, you
register the case under section 376 (rape) of Indian Penal Code. You do not
register case or take action where you should have done," the judge said, adding
that by putting men behind bars for marrying the woman they love the police were
turning "normal citizens to criminals".
Referring to a massive hunt launched by the police in Mar 2010 to find Delhi
police Commissioner's dog, that went missing, the court remarked, "You can
search the entire city if a dog of your boss is lost but you can't provide
protection to the people. This is what you are. What to talk about humanity when
you don't have shame."
JAI HO !!! Justice Dhingra
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"Its unfortunate that elopement cases are converted into rape cases. Your police
is party in all cases of honour killings. You connive with parents and turn your
face the other side. You send boys behind bars on rape charges and allow the
parents to kill their daughter.
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"How can you be so insensitive for a few bucks? In case of elopement, you
register the case under section 376 (rape) of Indian Penal Code. You do not
register case or take action where you should have done," the judge said, adding
that by putting men behind bars for marrying the woman they love the police were
turning "normal citizens to criminals".
Referring to a massive hunt launched by the police in Mar 2010 to find Delhi
police Commissioner's dog, that went missing, the court remarked, "You can
search the entire city if a dog of your boss is lost but you can't provide
protection to the people. This is what you are. What to talk about humanity when
you don't have shame."
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
What is a bigger crime?
As published in a leading Newspaper...
ON THE morning of 30 May 2010, Hyderabad woke up to the news of a gruesome homicide where a husband and his family members assaulted and killed the wife and her family members. The reason for the extreme act was ongoing marital disputes between the couple but primarily, it was the case of dowry harassment filed against the husband and his family, and the arrest, humiliation and trauma they suffered as a result.
“I am glad someone did what I could only have dreamt of”, said Govind, who has been fighting false accusations of dowry harassment for the last 3 years. “Murdering your wife and going to jail is better than being jailed on false accusations of abuse”, responded Raj. “I have heard of husbands or their family members committing suicide, but THIS is real justice because, no court will punish a woman or her family members for lodging false cases and sending an entire family to jail or driving her husband to suicide”, added Praveen, venting his bottled-up emotions.
Appalled or repulsed by these reactions?
Welcome to the world of those wrongly jailed under Section 498A of IPC on the basis of a mere complaint of a wife which is treated as “prima facie evidence” of the alleged crime!
Those falsely accused and jailed under this criminal section are overwhelmed with such deep sense of sorrow and indignation that almost everyone has either considered suicide or murder. The meeker ones who cannot even imagine blood on their hands secretly wish that the misusers of the law are simply struck by lightning or run over by a bus.
Hundreds of individuals do, in fact, commit suicide every year, and more recently, several cases of murder are coming to light. There are many more cases of murder followed by suicide as in the case of Amit Budhiraja in Bangalore a couple of years ago.
Why would ordinary citizens prefer murder over judicial process? Is there a greater incentive in taking law into one’s own hands compared to availing legal options today? The answer is unfortunately a resounding yes.
It is a fact that today, our society and law enforcement receive a murderer with much more respect, even if it is only inspired by shock and awe, compared to a decent human being who has been falsely accused of dowry harassment or dowry death. In addition, murderers, like those in the recent Hyderabad episode, perhaps have some sense of personal closure upon finishing off their offenders and voluntarily submitting to the slow and inefficient judicial process which no longer inspires fear or respect in their minds.
Compare this situation to that of a decent, law-abiding individual who is dragged to jail just for being a man or his kin. He loses his job and 4-5 years of his career running around courts for a crime he never committed, his reputation and dignity are destroyed beyond repair, he is faced with the choice of either spending all his hard-earned money fighting a long-drawn legal battle to prove his innocence or succumb to the blackmail and extortion by his wife, her family and the entire state machinery which supports them, AND in the end, when he and his family members are finally pronounced NOT guilty, he has to watch the mischievous wife and all her accomplices walk away scot-free!
While the Hyderabad episode is not an isolated incident, it is certainly the worst imaginable consequence of criminalizing marital relationships and giving free rein to legal terrorism. It is certainly horrifying that five persons were murdered at once, but what is worse is that the incident bears witness to the murder of a common man’s faith in the country’s law enforcement and judicial system.
It may only be a matter of time before more and more law-abiding citizens will be forced to shun their personal inhibitions, morals and scruples and resort to “instant justice”.
Robert Kennedy once said, “Whenever men take the law into their own hands, the loser is the law. And when the law loses, freedom languishes.” While this is true, our present situation warns us that whenever laws undermine basic freedoms, the loser is the man. And when a man loses his basic freedoms, he will be forced to take law into his own hands.
ON THE morning of 30 May 2010, Hyderabad woke up to the news of a gruesome homicide where a husband and his family members assaulted and killed the wife and her family members. The reason for the extreme act was ongoing marital disputes between the couple but primarily, it was the case of dowry harassment filed against the husband and his family, and the arrest, humiliation and trauma they suffered as a result.
“I am glad someone did what I could only have dreamt of”, said Govind, who has been fighting false accusations of dowry harassment for the last 3 years. “Murdering your wife and going to jail is better than being jailed on false accusations of abuse”, responded Raj. “I have heard of husbands or their family members committing suicide, but THIS is real justice because, no court will punish a woman or her family members for lodging false cases and sending an entire family to jail or driving her husband to suicide”, added Praveen, venting his bottled-up emotions.
Appalled or repulsed by these reactions?
Welcome to the world of those wrongly jailed under Section 498A of IPC on the basis of a mere complaint of a wife which is treated as “prima facie evidence” of the alleged crime!
Those falsely accused and jailed under this criminal section are overwhelmed with such deep sense of sorrow and indignation that almost everyone has either considered suicide or murder. The meeker ones who cannot even imagine blood on their hands secretly wish that the misusers of the law are simply struck by lightning or run over by a bus.
Hundreds of individuals do, in fact, commit suicide every year, and more recently, several cases of murder are coming to light. There are many more cases of murder followed by suicide as in the case of Amit Budhiraja in Bangalore a couple of years ago.
Why would ordinary citizens prefer murder over judicial process? Is there a greater incentive in taking law into one’s own hands compared to availing legal options today? The answer is unfortunately a resounding yes.
It is a fact that today, our society and law enforcement receive a murderer with much more respect, even if it is only inspired by shock and awe, compared to a decent human being who has been falsely accused of dowry harassment or dowry death. In addition, murderers, like those in the recent Hyderabad episode, perhaps have some sense of personal closure upon finishing off their offenders and voluntarily submitting to the slow and inefficient judicial process which no longer inspires fear or respect in their minds.
Compare this situation to that of a decent, law-abiding individual who is dragged to jail just for being a man or his kin. He loses his job and 4-5 years of his career running around courts for a crime he never committed, his reputation and dignity are destroyed beyond repair, he is faced with the choice of either spending all his hard-earned money fighting a long-drawn legal battle to prove his innocence or succumb to the blackmail and extortion by his wife, her family and the entire state machinery which supports them, AND in the end, when he and his family members are finally pronounced NOT guilty, he has to watch the mischievous wife and all her accomplices walk away scot-free!
While the Hyderabad episode is not an isolated incident, it is certainly the worst imaginable consequence of criminalizing marital relationships and giving free rein to legal terrorism. It is certainly horrifying that five persons were murdered at once, but what is worse is that the incident bears witness to the murder of a common man’s faith in the country’s law enforcement and judicial system.
It may only be a matter of time before more and more law-abiding citizens will be forced to shun their personal inhibitions, morals and scruples and resort to “instant justice”.
Robert Kennedy once said, “Whenever men take the law into their own hands, the loser is the law. And when the law loses, freedom languishes.” While this is true, our present situation warns us that whenever laws undermine basic freedoms, the loser is the man. And when a man loses his basic freedoms, he will be forced to take law into his own hands.
Friday, May 28, 2010
INDIAN HUSBANDS ARE TREATED WORSE THAN KASAB
A NGO FHS said that, Indian Husbands charged with biased matrimonial laws, made to deal with family disputes, between husband and wife, such as IPC 498A, CrPC 125, Domestic violence Act, Hindu Marriage Act etc, are treated worst than “Ajmal Amir Kasab”, Pakistani terrorist, who is charged with the death of 166 Indians and foreigners, has been pronounced guilty of all charges by a special court in Mumbai.
“Family Harmony Society” - FHS – is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore.
Many people ask FHS activists why this NGO was formed and what is unique about you? “This NGO was formed in 2005 in Bangalore and is having presence in 16 states and in abroad too. We formed this NGO to protect and fight for the rights of the MEN. Everyone is concerned only about the rights of women but the society and Governments has forgotten about MEN’s right” Said Suresh P, who is President of the NGO.
“When there is a ministry for even animal (Animal Husbandry Ministry) why not for MEN?” asks FHS General Secretary M Mahesh and demands a ‘MEN’s welfare ministry’.
“In case of matrimonial disputes between husband and wife, all the related laws are made heavily in favor of estranged wife, giving no chance to husbands or his parents to defend. Why husbands are treated worst than criminals and terrorist?” asked PRO of FHS Raghvendra.
“Ajmal Amir Kasab was provided with free Government advocate and even though everyone knew he is guilty, enormous amount of resource of Government and Judiciary was wasted for his trial, but in case of matrimonial disputes when an estranged wife file a false complaint under IPC 498A, all the members of the husbands including females members like mother-in-law, sister-in-law and age old grandfather, grandmother are immediately arrested and sent to jail. Even minor children are not spared. What crime we have done? Are we worst than Ajmal Amir Kasab that without proving any charges we are arrested and sent to jail? Why each and every failed marriage is branded as Dowry case? Why each and every wife’s death is converted to dowry death case without an iota of proof and evidence” FHS activists Umesh G, has asked these uncomfortable questions to the Government?
The NGO is fighting for gender equality and a ministry for “MEN welfare”. It is asking to make a provision for Men to complaint for domestic violence, to bring 498a under civil law, to make 498a bailable. The members of the NGO say that “No arrest should be done before proper investigation” and “age old parent and children must not be arrested”. They also demand to dispose divorce and child custody cases within 1 year.
“Family Harmony Society” - FHS – is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore.
Many people ask FHS activists why this NGO was formed and what is unique about you? “This NGO was formed in 2005 in Bangalore and is having presence in 16 states and in abroad too. We formed this NGO to protect and fight for the rights of the MEN. Everyone is concerned only about the rights of women but the society and Governments has forgotten about MEN’s right” Said Suresh P, who is President of the NGO.
“When there is a ministry for even animal (Animal Husbandry Ministry) why not for MEN?” asks FHS General Secretary M Mahesh and demands a ‘MEN’s welfare ministry’.
“In case of matrimonial disputes between husband and wife, all the related laws are made heavily in favor of estranged wife, giving no chance to husbands or his parents to defend. Why husbands are treated worst than criminals and terrorist?” asked PRO of FHS Raghvendra.
“Ajmal Amir Kasab was provided with free Government advocate and even though everyone knew he is guilty, enormous amount of resource of Government and Judiciary was wasted for his trial, but in case of matrimonial disputes when an estranged wife file a false complaint under IPC 498A, all the members of the husbands including females members like mother-in-law, sister-in-law and age old grandfather, grandmother are immediately arrested and sent to jail. Even minor children are not spared. What crime we have done? Are we worst than Ajmal Amir Kasab that without proving any charges we are arrested and sent to jail? Why each and every failed marriage is branded as Dowry case? Why each and every wife’s death is converted to dowry death case without an iota of proof and evidence” FHS activists Umesh G, has asked these uncomfortable questions to the Government?
The NGO is fighting for gender equality and a ministry for “MEN welfare”. It is asking to make a provision for Men to complaint for domestic violence, to bring 498a under civil law, to make 498a bailable. The members of the NGO say that “No arrest should be done before proper investigation” and “age old parent and children must not be arrested”. They also demand to dispose divorce and child custody cases within 1 year.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
TRUE CONVERSATION WITH A POTENTIAL 498A WOMAN
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:57 PM): hi
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:58 PM): fine
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:59 PM): n u?
Male (5/27/2010 2:30:39 PM): fine
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:38 PM): whats new
Female (5/27/2010 2:32:43 PM): nothing
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:44 PM): i have a q
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:59 PM): poochoon
Female (5/27/2010 2:33:07 PM): yeah
Male (5/27/2010 2:33:41 PM): is ur bro still going thru the 498a
Female (5/27/2010 2:35:53 PM): that notie u mean?
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:18 PM): u said ur bro's wife filed a case against ur
bro
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:22 PM): is it still going on
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:14 PM): nono
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:27 PM): we r filing against her family
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:07 PM): what case ur filing against her famil
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:22 PM): or u mean...u r filing against ur hubby's
family?
Female (5/27/2010 2:42:54 PM): we have filed a case against my bhabhis
family,.....
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:04 PM): to send back our daughter in law
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:15 PM): ok
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:31 PM): and are u also planning to file any case on ur
husband
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:53 PM): yeah
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:00 PM): but that will happen later
Male (5/27/2010 2:44:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:22 PM): 1st my parents n bro will go there....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:29 PM): n see if they can improve....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:33 PM): n if not....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:48 PM): then we will go in for divorce with mutual
consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:01 PM): what if he doesnt accept for mutual consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:09 PM): what will u do then
Female (5/27/2010 2:45:45 PM): then women cell mein complaint
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:07 PM): what complaint
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:09 PM): we have enuf proofs against them to make
them spend the rest of there lives in jail
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:15 PM): dowry
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:21 PM): ok..
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:23 PM): mental n physical torture
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:34 PM): what are the demands for "mutual consent"
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:56 PM): just that they return back my stuff n my
money n jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:59 PM): thats it
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:11 PM): whats ur stuff ..how much is the money and
jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:29 PM): worth abt 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:49 PM): so..your family has taken a cue from ayesha
siddiqui
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:52 PM): everything included
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:03 PM): who is she?
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:05 PM): and now u r using the law for your extortion
racket
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:27 PM): is it 5 crores or 6 crores
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:49 PM): u should not speak if u dont know
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:56 PM): u r saying it as though it is 500 or 600 rupees
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:21 PM): its not
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:24 PM): i know very well about your kind of people
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:26 PM): its just 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:34 PM): 5 crores or 6 crores?
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:44 PM): who r u to ask neways
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:11 PM): what ur bhabhi doing is wrong...what you are
doing is right?
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:14 PM): isnt it
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:31 PM): well....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:35 PM): i m saying again....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:39 PM): if u dont know....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:43 PM): u had better not talk
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:49 PM): i told u...i know your kind of people very well
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:57 PM): just get lost yaar
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:58 PM): i stand corrected...not very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:01 PM): very very very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:16 PM): i have another question
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:18 PM): shall i ask
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:21 PM): my dad spent 5 crores in my marriage
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:34 PM): he gave 1crores80lacs in my bank account
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:44 PM): jewellery worth Rs 1 crore
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:00 PM): all with legal papers
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:02 PM): ok?
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:03 PM): and why did he spend so much and gave so much
money...why?
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:10 PM): his wish
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:29 PM): ok he wished...but why did u people give..what
prompted u?
Female has signed out. (5/27/2010 2:52 PM)
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:58 PM): fine
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:59 PM): n u?
Male (5/27/2010 2:30:39 PM): fine
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:38 PM): whats new
Female (5/27/2010 2:32:43 PM): nothing
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:44 PM): i have a q
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:59 PM): poochoon
Female (5/27/2010 2:33:07 PM): yeah
Male (5/27/2010 2:33:41 PM): is ur bro still going thru the 498a
Female (5/27/2010 2:35:53 PM): that notie u mean?
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:18 PM): u said ur bro's wife filed a case against ur
bro
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:22 PM): is it still going on
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:14 PM): nono
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:27 PM): we r filing against her family
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:07 PM): what case ur filing against her famil
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:22 PM): or u mean...u r filing against ur hubby's
family?
Female (5/27/2010 2:42:54 PM): we have filed a case against my bhabhis
family,.....
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:04 PM): to send back our daughter in law
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:15 PM): ok
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:31 PM): and are u also planning to file any case on ur
husband
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:53 PM): yeah
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:00 PM): but that will happen later
Male (5/27/2010 2:44:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:22 PM): 1st my parents n bro will go there....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:29 PM): n see if they can improve....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:33 PM): n if not....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:48 PM): then we will go in for divorce with mutual
consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:01 PM): what if he doesnt accept for mutual consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:09 PM): what will u do then
Female (5/27/2010 2:45:45 PM): then women cell mein complaint
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:07 PM): what complaint
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:09 PM): we have enuf proofs against them to make
them spend the rest of there lives in jail
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:15 PM): dowry
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:21 PM): ok..
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:23 PM): mental n physical torture
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:34 PM): what are the demands for "mutual consent"
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:56 PM): just that they return back my stuff n my
money n jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:59 PM): thats it
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:11 PM): whats ur stuff ..how much is the money and
jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:29 PM): worth abt 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:49 PM): so..your family has taken a cue from ayesha
siddiqui
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:52 PM): everything included
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:03 PM): who is she?
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:05 PM): and now u r using the law for your extortion
racket
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:27 PM): is it 5 crores or 6 crores
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:49 PM): u should not speak if u dont know
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:56 PM): u r saying it as though it is 500 or 600 rupees
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:21 PM): its not
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:24 PM): i know very well about your kind of people
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:26 PM): its just 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:34 PM): 5 crores or 6 crores?
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:44 PM): who r u to ask neways
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:11 PM): what ur bhabhi doing is wrong...what you are
doing is right?
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:14 PM): isnt it
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:31 PM): well....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:35 PM): i m saying again....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:39 PM): if u dont know....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:43 PM): u had better not talk
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:49 PM): i told u...i know your kind of people very well
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:57 PM): just get lost yaar
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:58 PM): i stand corrected...not very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:01 PM): very very very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:16 PM): i have another question
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:18 PM): shall i ask
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:21 PM): my dad spent 5 crores in my marriage
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:34 PM): he gave 1crores80lacs in my bank account
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:44 PM): jewellery worth Rs 1 crore
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:00 PM): all with legal papers
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:02 PM): ok?
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:03 PM): and why did he spend so much and gave so much
money...why?
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:10 PM): his wish
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:29 PM): ok he wished...but why did u people give..what
prompted u?
Female has signed out. (5/27/2010 2:52 PM)
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
101 uses of Wedding Gown
London, May 24 (ANI): A divorced man has
found a unique way to take revenge from his wife who spurned him - inventing 101
uses of her wedding gown - and blogging about it.
Kevin Cotter was left heartbroken as his high school sweetheart walked out
after 12 years of marriage - taking with her everything but her lace- and
pearl-embellished white wedding dress. "She had all of her stuff loaded and I
couldn't help but notice because this bridal keepsake box was dead centre on the
main shelf in the walk-in closet," he said. "She said 'I'm not taking it,' and
when I asked what I should do with it her reply was do whatever I wanted," The
Telegraph quoter Cotter as saying.
But Cotter decided to quit moping. Instead, he decided to channel his despair
into being constructive - and how! He has started a blog chronicling 101 uses
for the rejected dress - the blog has become a sensation on the Internet
garnering users from everywhere. One viewer suggested that the dress be used to
plug the hole in the leaking well in the Gulf of Mexico. Mr Cotter said he was
"not sure how we will shoot this one" - each suggestion features a video showing
the dress in action - but said he "really liked the idea".
So far, he has listed 23 uses - some of which include a yoga mat, a pasta
strainer, painter's cover sheet, ice pack, camera lens cleaner and even a dog
bed. Cotter aims to reach 101 uses and possibly publish a book about his
experience in trying to find uses for a garment that usually only gets one
outing.
Cotter's wife, who says she left the dress behind so that her daughter could
have it someday, told ABC news in a mail, "I wish all the best to Kevin and hope
he seeks counselling to deal with his anger and resentment. "His determination,
along with his family's support, to continue with this endeavour after his
children and I have asked him to stop is incomprehensible."
Cotter on the other hand, says that this 'project' has acted as a therapy for
him.
"Nothing about divorce is pleasant or easy and I will share some of my
experiences and at the same time lighten them up with some creative uses for
this dress I was stuck with," he said
found a unique way to take revenge from his wife who spurned him - inventing 101
uses of her wedding gown - and blogging about it.
Kevin Cotter was left heartbroken as his high school sweetheart walked out
after 12 years of marriage - taking with her everything but her lace- and
pearl-embellished white wedding dress. "She had all of her stuff loaded and I
couldn't help but notice because this bridal keepsake box was dead centre on the
main shelf in the walk-in closet," he said. "She said 'I'm not taking it,' and
when I asked what I should do with it her reply was do whatever I wanted," The
Telegraph quoter Cotter as saying.
But Cotter decided to quit moping. Instead, he decided to channel his despair
into being constructive - and how! He has started a blog chronicling 101 uses
for the rejected dress - the blog has become a sensation on the Internet
garnering users from everywhere. One viewer suggested that the dress be used to
plug the hole in the leaking well in the Gulf of Mexico. Mr Cotter said he was
"not sure how we will shoot this one" - each suggestion features a video showing
the dress in action - but said he "really liked the idea".
So far, he has listed 23 uses - some of which include a yoga mat, a pasta
strainer, painter's cover sheet, ice pack, camera lens cleaner and even a dog
bed. Cotter aims to reach 101 uses and possibly publish a book about his
experience in trying to find uses for a garment that usually only gets one
outing.
Cotter's wife, who says she left the dress behind so that her daughter could
have it someday, told ABC news in a mail, "I wish all the best to Kevin and hope
he seeks counselling to deal with his anger and resentment. "His determination,
along with his family's support, to continue with this endeavour after his
children and I have asked him to stop is incomprehensible."
Cotter on the other hand, says that this 'project' has acted as a therapy for
him.
"Nothing about divorce is pleasant or easy and I will share some of my
experiences and at the same time lighten them up with some creative uses for
this dress I was stuck with," he said
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A great topic in Central Chronicle
http://www.centralchronicle.com/viewnews.asp?articleID=36454
Personal Thought: Dowry Act misuse by women
Quite often women file/ lodge First Information Report (FIR) allegedly of harassment and return of dowry / gifts at the time of marriage. (Though dowry is banned but gifts of items in marriage especially by bride's side is still in vogue). In many cases the demand is in lakhs/ crores of rupees. Additionally charges are levied under The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act. The main idea is to get maximum financial benefit even without any base -just for revenge on not adjusting within new family atmosphere and wrongly blaming the husband and his family members including senior -old persons as this law is heavily in favour of women.
In the present materialistic world, most persons try to get the knot with rich persons having immoveable properties and lucrative salaries or wealthy rich parents. Their sole motive is all luxuries in life and to extract their wealth by women by making false claims on dowry and harassment etc and by man seeking such wealthy girl in question. Unfortunately in the eye of society women are treated as weaker section and most people take their side for most matters -they have a biased opinion that women are always correct in blaming the society or men folk. Who says women are more honest in their dealings?
All in all, it is the need of the hour to make Compulsory List of Dowry / gifts items including cash / other valuable items received as gifts from relatives and friends etc and get it registered along with Marriage Registration within 30 days of performing of marriage with appropriate authorities in the State where marriage takes place. Also all exiting couples whenever got married in the past must do with option that if they do not file such a list than in future their FIR/ case of Dowry / gifts etc shall not be entertained. The list of Dowry / Gift items must be made and signed by both bride and groom's family heads and be Notarized and scanned copy be filed through E-mail -to make it simple and automatic acknowledgement be generated for it and that is sufficient proof of deposit made. One copy must be kept by groom's family and other photocopy by bride's family.
Above suggestions if implemented shall reduce number of court cases. And false cases of dowry and harassment of groom's family members shall be minimum or just vanish.
All cases of Dowry/ Gifts less than Rupees Five Lakhs be exempted from above suggested changes in the laws. Also no case of Dowry return shall be accepted or FIR registered if the amount is below Rupees Five Lakhs.
On implementation of above suggestions, Lo bhaiya, the number of court cases and FIRs shall be reduced and life of people in the society shall be more peaceful to live in!, What more is needed?
Mahesh Kapasi
Personal Thought: Dowry Act misuse by women
Quite often women file/ lodge First Information Report (FIR) allegedly of harassment and return of dowry / gifts at the time of marriage. (Though dowry is banned but gifts of items in marriage especially by bride's side is still in vogue). In many cases the demand is in lakhs/ crores of rupees. Additionally charges are levied under The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act. The main idea is to get maximum financial benefit even without any base -just for revenge on not adjusting within new family atmosphere and wrongly blaming the husband and his family members including senior -old persons as this law is heavily in favour of women.
In the present materialistic world, most persons try to get the knot with rich persons having immoveable properties and lucrative salaries or wealthy rich parents. Their sole motive is all luxuries in life and to extract their wealth by women by making false claims on dowry and harassment etc and by man seeking such wealthy girl in question. Unfortunately in the eye of society women are treated as weaker section and most people take their side for most matters -they have a biased opinion that women are always correct in blaming the society or men folk. Who says women are more honest in their dealings?
All in all, it is the need of the hour to make Compulsory List of Dowry / gifts items including cash / other valuable items received as gifts from relatives and friends etc and get it registered along with Marriage Registration within 30 days of performing of marriage with appropriate authorities in the State where marriage takes place. Also all exiting couples whenever got married in the past must do with option that if they do not file such a list than in future their FIR/ case of Dowry / gifts etc shall not be entertained. The list of Dowry / Gift items must be made and signed by both bride and groom's family heads and be Notarized and scanned copy be filed through E-mail -to make it simple and automatic acknowledgement be generated for it and that is sufficient proof of deposit made. One copy must be kept by groom's family and other photocopy by bride's family.
Above suggestions if implemented shall reduce number of court cases. And false cases of dowry and harassment of groom's family members shall be minimum or just vanish.
All cases of Dowry/ Gifts less than Rupees Five Lakhs be exempted from above suggested changes in the laws. Also no case of Dowry return shall be accepted or FIR registered if the amount is below Rupees Five Lakhs.
On implementation of above suggestions, Lo bhaiya, the number of court cases and FIRs shall be reduced and life of people in the society shall be more peaceful to live in!, What more is needed?
Mahesh Kapasi
Indian women are INCAPABLE
It is admitted by indian law and legislation that indian women are not
capable enough to maintain them selves. That is why there are multiple
provision for them to get maintenance from husband so that these incapable
women can get the food to live.
if govt. admits the incapability of women, then why the question arises to
make them guardian for minor children. how somebody who is unable to
maintain herself, can maintain others.
A BIG JOKE BY OUR GOVT.
capable enough to maintain them selves. That is why there are multiple
provision for them to get maintenance from husband so that these incapable
women can get the food to live.
if govt. admits the incapability of women, then why the question arises to
make them guardian for minor children. how somebody who is unable to
maintain herself, can maintain others.
A BIG JOKE BY OUR GOVT.
Monday, May 24, 2010
INDIAN POLITICIANS DO NOT WANT A DOWRY FREE STATE
The menace of dowry can easily be eradicated from India. The still bigger menace of Misuse of Dowry Laws can again be easily eradicated.
Some reasons why the menace is still existing:
Many decades has been passed since enforcing of Dowry Prohibition Act,1961, in India but still it is claimed by the NCW and Government that Dowry menace is ever increasing in the society as the cases registered under this Act is increasing. The NCW & Government needs introspection here about their stats and wisdom.
If it’s so, then Why India is not able to eliminate this dowry menace from it’s society ?. Here, I have the answer:
India can’t be a dowry free State
1. Until National Commission for Women(NCW) is close down or disoriented.
2. Until Country is not forced to be run by feminists.
3. Until legislatures change their feministic view about family & marriage matters.
4. Until Courts realize their duty to take cognizance of Perjury (if any) against parents of bride.
5. Until the dowry givers are punished.
6. Until the IPC 498a is scraped.
7. Until the word “dowry” is used for every trouble caused to a woman.
8. Until every death of married women is termed as Dowry Death.
9. Until unscrupulous women are entitled for maintenance.
10. Until child custody is primarily the right of woman.
11. Until Domestic violence is attributed only to husband.
12. Until matrimonial laws are gender biased.
13. Until Woman Empowerment is done at the cost of womanhood.
14. Until false allegations has edge over truth legally.
15. Until Men Welfare Ministry is formed.
16. Until the existence of myth that India is a male dominating society.
And also
Until a true gender neutral study & research is done on violence in family & matrimonial matters.
Am I Wrong ?
Some reasons why the menace is still existing:
Many decades has been passed since enforcing of Dowry Prohibition Act,1961, in India but still it is claimed by the NCW and Government that Dowry menace is ever increasing in the society as the cases registered under this Act is increasing. The NCW & Government needs introspection here about their stats and wisdom.
If it’s so, then Why India is not able to eliminate this dowry menace from it’s society ?. Here, I have the answer:
India can’t be a dowry free State
1. Until National Commission for Women(NCW) is close down or disoriented.
2. Until Country is not forced to be run by feminists.
3. Until legislatures change their feministic view about family & marriage matters.
4. Until Courts realize their duty to take cognizance of Perjury (if any) against parents of bride.
5. Until the dowry givers are punished.
6. Until the IPC 498a is scraped.
7. Until the word “dowry” is used for every trouble caused to a woman.
8. Until every death of married women is termed as Dowry Death.
9. Until unscrupulous women are entitled for maintenance.
10. Until child custody is primarily the right of woman.
11. Until Domestic violence is attributed only to husband.
12. Until matrimonial laws are gender biased.
13. Until Woman Empowerment is done at the cost of womanhood.
14. Until false allegations has edge over truth legally.
15. Until Men Welfare Ministry is formed.
16. Until the existence of myth that India is a male dominating society.
And also
Until a true gender neutral study & research is done on violence in family & matrimonial matters.
Am I Wrong ?
BALM FOR MEN - AIMWA
Balm for men
http://www.tribuneindia.com/2010/20100523/spectrum/main4.htm
Several laws have been passed in the name of women's empowerment.
The All India Men's Welfare Association aims to protect men from domestic
violence and other forms of abuse, reports Nivedita Choudhuri
ASK someone about the problems of women, and a list would emerge that would never seem to end. Ask about men's problems, and you see only blank faces. Does that mean that men do not have any problem? Or is it that there is no awareness amongst the general public? Or is it just that men are simply taken for granted? If Uma Challa had her way, she would strive to bring in changes.
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The president of the newly-formed All-India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA) says the welfare of men and boys has been seriously neglected in India over the last few decades. While championing the cause of women's rights and empowerment, the government and society tacitly approve of the propagation of anti-male sentiments, condone the resultant diminution in value of men's lives and support the blatant violation of men's rights through discriminatory laws and policies.
Challa says several laws have been passed since Independence in the name of women's empowerment. However, there are no laws to protect men from any form of abuse or harassment within and outside the home, and a man is always thought of as an aggressor, and a woman as victim. Challa focusses on the "legal terrorism" in India unleashed through laws such as Section 498-A, IPC, and the Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA).
Section 498-A, for example, deals with matrimonial cruelty and allows for immediate arrest of a woman's husband and in-laws on the basis of her complaint. Challa says this law is being grossly misused by women for their selfish ends. AIMWA was launched in October, 2009, which was observed as domestic violence awareness month. Four organisations — Save Indian Family Foundation, All-India Forgotten Women, Rishtey and Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting — launched a month-long campaign in Hyderabad on October 2, International Day of Non-Violence.
Challa says the campaign aims at educating Indians about how the problem of domestic violence has been misrepresented, and how laws claiming to prevent domestic violence are actually promoting human rights abuses against men, women and children. An association member cites the example of 58-year-old Aneek, who claims to have invested all his money in his wife's name. He is now on the verge of retirement, and his wife is showing him the door. She has filed a case under the Domestic Violence Act against him, and her lawyer has threatened him with a view to extort money.
Aneek also claims to be a victim of domestic violence himself, and says his wife has slapped and punched him on many occasions. Or, take the case of Gaurav, who has been booked under Section 498-A along with his parents and mentally-challenged sister. His disabled sister and mother, a kidney patient for over two decades, managed to secure bail. However, his father lost his secure government job after he was arrested and spent more than 48 hours in the police lock-up. The family is now in dire financial straits as there is no earning member. Gaurav has started studying law in a bid to understand his rights better.
He is worried about the loan his father had taken out to fund his estranged daughter-in-law's studies. Gaurav has no idea how he will repay it. The founders of AIMWA say the helplines that were set up for male victims have not stopped ringing since October. More than 40 calls are received each day from distressed husbands. The association also conducts counselling sessions for men who develop suicidal tendencies due to the mental anguish they face. The pain and agony that men go through when subjected to domestic violence is much like what women face when ill-treated, adds another member. However, while people sympathise with women, men find no listeners.
While society is applauding more and more women getting educated, entering the job market and challenging their traditional roles within the family and society, men are still being shackled to their traditional roles of protecting and providing for women, children and the aged. AIMWA
members claim the growing disregard against males in India is forcing more than 50,000 men to end their lives every year.
Challa says domestic and social harmony will prevail only when women and men are ensured their rightful place within and outside the home.
http://www.tribuneindia.com/2010/20100523/spectrum/main4.htm
Several laws have been passed in the name of women's empowerment.
The All India Men's Welfare Association aims to protect men from domestic
violence and other forms of abuse, reports Nivedita Choudhuri
ASK someone about the problems of women, and a list would emerge that would never seem to end. Ask about men's problems, and you see only blank faces. Does that mean that men do not have any problem? Or is it that there is no awareness amongst the general public? Or is it just that men are simply taken for granted? If Uma Challa had her way, she would strive to bring in changes.
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The president of the newly-formed All-India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA) says the welfare of men and boys has been seriously neglected in India over the last few decades. While championing the cause of women's rights and empowerment, the government and society tacitly approve of the propagation of anti-male sentiments, condone the resultant diminution in value of men's lives and support the blatant violation of men's rights through discriminatory laws and policies.
Challa says several laws have been passed since Independence in the name of women's empowerment. However, there are no laws to protect men from any form of abuse or harassment within and outside the home, and a man is always thought of as an aggressor, and a woman as victim. Challa focusses on the "legal terrorism" in India unleashed through laws such as Section 498-A, IPC, and the Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA).
Section 498-A, for example, deals with matrimonial cruelty and allows for immediate arrest of a woman's husband and in-laws on the basis of her complaint. Challa says this law is being grossly misused by women for their selfish ends. AIMWA was launched in October, 2009, which was observed as domestic violence awareness month. Four organisations — Save Indian Family Foundation, All-India Forgotten Women, Rishtey and Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting — launched a month-long campaign in Hyderabad on October 2, International Day of Non-Violence.
Challa says the campaign aims at educating Indians about how the problem of domestic violence has been misrepresented, and how laws claiming to prevent domestic violence are actually promoting human rights abuses against men, women and children. An association member cites the example of 58-year-old Aneek, who claims to have invested all his money in his wife's name. He is now on the verge of retirement, and his wife is showing him the door. She has filed a case under the Domestic Violence Act against him, and her lawyer has threatened him with a view to extort money.
Aneek also claims to be a victim of domestic violence himself, and says his wife has slapped and punched him on many occasions. Or, take the case of Gaurav, who has been booked under Section 498-A along with his parents and mentally-challenged sister. His disabled sister and mother, a kidney patient for over two decades, managed to secure bail. However, his father lost his secure government job after he was arrested and spent more than 48 hours in the police lock-up. The family is now in dire financial straits as there is no earning member. Gaurav has started studying law in a bid to understand his rights better.
He is worried about the loan his father had taken out to fund his estranged daughter-in-law's studies. Gaurav has no idea how he will repay it. The founders of AIMWA say the helplines that were set up for male victims have not stopped ringing since October. More than 40 calls are received each day from distressed husbands. The association also conducts counselling sessions for men who develop suicidal tendencies due to the mental anguish they face. The pain and agony that men go through when subjected to domestic violence is much like what women face when ill-treated, adds another member. However, while people sympathise with women, men find no listeners.
While society is applauding more and more women getting educated, entering the job market and challenging their traditional roles within the family and society, men are still being shackled to their traditional roles of protecting and providing for women, children and the aged. AIMWA
members claim the growing disregard against males in India is forcing more than 50,000 men to end their lives every year.
Challa says domestic and social harmony will prevail only when women and men are ensured their rightful place within and outside the home.
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