Although the Union Law minister ensures that all cases will be run on priority , it seems nothing more than a bubble of water. The Law minister is good for nothing except but making false promises. He assured of Judicial Accountability nearly 2 years back , well but all know the present situations too.
Flukes !!!
Union Law Minister M Veerappa Moily today said all the courts in the country would be brought on “fast track” to dispose of cases within three years under a “revolutionary” legal reforms process involving an expenditure of Rs 15,000 crore in five years.
“In future, all the courts should come on fast track. Fast track courts cannot work in isolation,” Moily told reporters while summarizing the proceedings of a meeting of the Northern region. The meeting was held to discuss utilization of the Rs 5,000 crore recommended by the 13th Finance Commission for judicial reforms.
Among those who attended the meeting were High Court Chief Justices or their representatives and law and finance ministers from Punjab, Haryana, Uttarakhand, Uttar Pradesh, Himachal Pradesh, Jammu and Kashmir and Delhi.
Moily said the Centre would provide an additional Rs 9,500 crore as one-time allocation, over and above the Finance Commission recommendations, for setting up 12,000 courts more by 2012, for filling up vacancies in courts and augmentation of infrastructure facilities of the judiciary.
Similar regional consultations had already been held in the East, North East and South and the last in the series would be held soon in Goa for the West. After this, guidelines would be issued for fund utilisation. The entire programme would be implemented on a war-footing, the Minister said.
He, however, made it clear that there was no consensus so far on the proposed formation of an All India Judicial Service. “There is no unanimity and we do not want to impose it. Consultations will continue with all the stake-holders.” The Justice Department in his ministry would prepare a paper for larger discussion. “Any decision will be taken only after due deliberations and consultations.”
The village courts being set up under the Gram Nyayalaya scheme was turning out to be a “movement” involving more and more mobile courts, including on running trains. The plan for the release of undertrial prisoners was proceeding well, with 1.6 lakh such prisoners already set free against the target of two lakhs. The idea was to reduce the number of undertrials in jails by two-third — from three lakh to one lakh.
There was also a plan to train public prosecutors on a priority basis. States would be allowed flexibility to prepare their own priority lists for the reform process. Litigants embroiled in family disputes would not have to approach different courts as there would be a single-window facility soon with just one family court handling all sorts of such cases. As announced by Prime Minister Manmohan Singh recently, 71 additional CBI courts would be set up in the country to dispose of corruption cases on “highest priority”.
Clarifications could not be sought from the Minister as he did not take any questions. He, however, maintained that the proposals would make the country’s judicial system the best in the world.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Thursday, June 17, 2010
JUSTICE DHINGRA BLASTS POLICE
Rarest of the rare - Mr. Dhingra is one person who is doing justice to his position as a JUDGE.
JAI HO !!! Justice Dhingra
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"Its unfortunate that elopement cases are converted into rape cases. Your police
is party in all cases of honour killings. You connive with parents and turn your
face the other side. You send boys behind bars on rape charges and allow the
parents to kill their daughter.
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"How can you be so insensitive for a few bucks? In case of elopement, you
register the case under section 376 (rape) of Indian Penal Code. You do not
register case or take action where you should have done," the judge said, adding
that by putting men behind bars for marrying the woman they love the police were
turning "normal citizens to criminals".
Referring to a massive hunt launched by the police in Mar 2010 to find Delhi
police Commissioner's dog, that went missing, the court remarked, "You can
search the entire city if a dog of your boss is lost but you can't provide
protection to the people. This is what you are. What to talk about humanity when
you don't have shame."
JAI HO !!! Justice Dhingra
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"Its unfortunate that elopement cases are converted into rape cases. Your police
is party in all cases of honour killings. You connive with parents and turn your
face the other side. You send boys behind bars on rape charges and allow the
parents to kill their daughter.
http://news.oneindia.in/2010/06/17/delhi-hc-slams-police-over-honour-killing-cas\
es.html
"How can you be so insensitive for a few bucks? In case of elopement, you
register the case under section 376 (rape) of Indian Penal Code. You do not
register case or take action where you should have done," the judge said, adding
that by putting men behind bars for marrying the woman they love the police were
turning "normal citizens to criminals".
Referring to a massive hunt launched by the police in Mar 2010 to find Delhi
police Commissioner's dog, that went missing, the court remarked, "You can
search the entire city if a dog of your boss is lost but you can't provide
protection to the people. This is what you are. What to talk about humanity when
you don't have shame."
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
What is a bigger crime?
As published in a leading Newspaper...
ON THE morning of 30 May 2010, Hyderabad woke up to the news of a gruesome homicide where a husband and his family members assaulted and killed the wife and her family members. The reason for the extreme act was ongoing marital disputes between the couple but primarily, it was the case of dowry harassment filed against the husband and his family, and the arrest, humiliation and trauma they suffered as a result.
“I am glad someone did what I could only have dreamt of”, said Govind, who has been fighting false accusations of dowry harassment for the last 3 years. “Murdering your wife and going to jail is better than being jailed on false accusations of abuse”, responded Raj. “I have heard of husbands or their family members committing suicide, but THIS is real justice because, no court will punish a woman or her family members for lodging false cases and sending an entire family to jail or driving her husband to suicide”, added Praveen, venting his bottled-up emotions.
Appalled or repulsed by these reactions?
Welcome to the world of those wrongly jailed under Section 498A of IPC on the basis of a mere complaint of a wife which is treated as “prima facie evidence” of the alleged crime!
Those falsely accused and jailed under this criminal section are overwhelmed with such deep sense of sorrow and indignation that almost everyone has either considered suicide or murder. The meeker ones who cannot even imagine blood on their hands secretly wish that the misusers of the law are simply struck by lightning or run over by a bus.
Hundreds of individuals do, in fact, commit suicide every year, and more recently, several cases of murder are coming to light. There are many more cases of murder followed by suicide as in the case of Amit Budhiraja in Bangalore a couple of years ago.
Why would ordinary citizens prefer murder over judicial process? Is there a greater incentive in taking law into one’s own hands compared to availing legal options today? The answer is unfortunately a resounding yes.
It is a fact that today, our society and law enforcement receive a murderer with much more respect, even if it is only inspired by shock and awe, compared to a decent human being who has been falsely accused of dowry harassment or dowry death. In addition, murderers, like those in the recent Hyderabad episode, perhaps have some sense of personal closure upon finishing off their offenders and voluntarily submitting to the slow and inefficient judicial process which no longer inspires fear or respect in their minds.
Compare this situation to that of a decent, law-abiding individual who is dragged to jail just for being a man or his kin. He loses his job and 4-5 years of his career running around courts for a crime he never committed, his reputation and dignity are destroyed beyond repair, he is faced with the choice of either spending all his hard-earned money fighting a long-drawn legal battle to prove his innocence or succumb to the blackmail and extortion by his wife, her family and the entire state machinery which supports them, AND in the end, when he and his family members are finally pronounced NOT guilty, he has to watch the mischievous wife and all her accomplices walk away scot-free!
While the Hyderabad episode is not an isolated incident, it is certainly the worst imaginable consequence of criminalizing marital relationships and giving free rein to legal terrorism. It is certainly horrifying that five persons were murdered at once, but what is worse is that the incident bears witness to the murder of a common man’s faith in the country’s law enforcement and judicial system.
It may only be a matter of time before more and more law-abiding citizens will be forced to shun their personal inhibitions, morals and scruples and resort to “instant justice”.
Robert Kennedy once said, “Whenever men take the law into their own hands, the loser is the law. And when the law loses, freedom languishes.” While this is true, our present situation warns us that whenever laws undermine basic freedoms, the loser is the man. And when a man loses his basic freedoms, he will be forced to take law into his own hands.
ON THE morning of 30 May 2010, Hyderabad woke up to the news of a gruesome homicide where a husband and his family members assaulted and killed the wife and her family members. The reason for the extreme act was ongoing marital disputes between the couple but primarily, it was the case of dowry harassment filed against the husband and his family, and the arrest, humiliation and trauma they suffered as a result.
“I am glad someone did what I could only have dreamt of”, said Govind, who has been fighting false accusations of dowry harassment for the last 3 years. “Murdering your wife and going to jail is better than being jailed on false accusations of abuse”, responded Raj. “I have heard of husbands or their family members committing suicide, but THIS is real justice because, no court will punish a woman or her family members for lodging false cases and sending an entire family to jail or driving her husband to suicide”, added Praveen, venting his bottled-up emotions.
Appalled or repulsed by these reactions?
Welcome to the world of those wrongly jailed under Section 498A of IPC on the basis of a mere complaint of a wife which is treated as “prima facie evidence” of the alleged crime!
Those falsely accused and jailed under this criminal section are overwhelmed with such deep sense of sorrow and indignation that almost everyone has either considered suicide or murder. The meeker ones who cannot even imagine blood on their hands secretly wish that the misusers of the law are simply struck by lightning or run over by a bus.
Hundreds of individuals do, in fact, commit suicide every year, and more recently, several cases of murder are coming to light. There are many more cases of murder followed by suicide as in the case of Amit Budhiraja in Bangalore a couple of years ago.
Why would ordinary citizens prefer murder over judicial process? Is there a greater incentive in taking law into one’s own hands compared to availing legal options today? The answer is unfortunately a resounding yes.
It is a fact that today, our society and law enforcement receive a murderer with much more respect, even if it is only inspired by shock and awe, compared to a decent human being who has been falsely accused of dowry harassment or dowry death. In addition, murderers, like those in the recent Hyderabad episode, perhaps have some sense of personal closure upon finishing off their offenders and voluntarily submitting to the slow and inefficient judicial process which no longer inspires fear or respect in their minds.
Compare this situation to that of a decent, law-abiding individual who is dragged to jail just for being a man or his kin. He loses his job and 4-5 years of his career running around courts for a crime he never committed, his reputation and dignity are destroyed beyond repair, he is faced with the choice of either spending all his hard-earned money fighting a long-drawn legal battle to prove his innocence or succumb to the blackmail and extortion by his wife, her family and the entire state machinery which supports them, AND in the end, when he and his family members are finally pronounced NOT guilty, he has to watch the mischievous wife and all her accomplices walk away scot-free!
While the Hyderabad episode is not an isolated incident, it is certainly the worst imaginable consequence of criminalizing marital relationships and giving free rein to legal terrorism. It is certainly horrifying that five persons were murdered at once, but what is worse is that the incident bears witness to the murder of a common man’s faith in the country’s law enforcement and judicial system.
It may only be a matter of time before more and more law-abiding citizens will be forced to shun their personal inhibitions, morals and scruples and resort to “instant justice”.
Robert Kennedy once said, “Whenever men take the law into their own hands, the loser is the law. And when the law loses, freedom languishes.” While this is true, our present situation warns us that whenever laws undermine basic freedoms, the loser is the man. And when a man loses his basic freedoms, he will be forced to take law into his own hands.
Friday, May 28, 2010
INDIAN HUSBANDS ARE TREATED WORSE THAN KASAB
A NGO FHS said that, Indian Husbands charged with biased matrimonial laws, made to deal with family disputes, between husband and wife, such as IPC 498A, CrPC 125, Domestic violence Act, Hindu Marriage Act etc, are treated worst than “Ajmal Amir Kasab”, Pakistani terrorist, who is charged with the death of 166 Indians and foreigners, has been pronounced guilty of all charges by a special court in Mumbai.
“Family Harmony Society” - FHS – is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore.
Many people ask FHS activists why this NGO was formed and what is unique about you? “This NGO was formed in 2005 in Bangalore and is having presence in 16 states and in abroad too. We formed this NGO to protect and fight for the rights of the MEN. Everyone is concerned only about the rights of women but the society and Governments has forgotten about MEN’s right” Said Suresh P, who is President of the NGO.
“When there is a ministry for even animal (Animal Husbandry Ministry) why not for MEN?” asks FHS General Secretary M Mahesh and demands a ‘MEN’s welfare ministry’.
“In case of matrimonial disputes between husband and wife, all the related laws are made heavily in favor of estranged wife, giving no chance to husbands or his parents to defend. Why husbands are treated worst than criminals and terrorist?” asked PRO of FHS Raghvendra.
“Ajmal Amir Kasab was provided with free Government advocate and even though everyone knew he is guilty, enormous amount of resource of Government and Judiciary was wasted for his trial, but in case of matrimonial disputes when an estranged wife file a false complaint under IPC 498A, all the members of the husbands including females members like mother-in-law, sister-in-law and age old grandfather, grandmother are immediately arrested and sent to jail. Even minor children are not spared. What crime we have done? Are we worst than Ajmal Amir Kasab that without proving any charges we are arrested and sent to jail? Why each and every failed marriage is branded as Dowry case? Why each and every wife’s death is converted to dowry death case without an iota of proof and evidence” FHS activists Umesh G, has asked these uncomfortable questions to the Government?
The NGO is fighting for gender equality and a ministry for “MEN welfare”. It is asking to make a provision for Men to complaint for domestic violence, to bring 498a under civil law, to make 498a bailable. The members of the NGO say that “No arrest should be done before proper investigation” and “age old parent and children must not be arrested”. They also demand to dispose divorce and child custody cases within 1 year.
“Family Harmony Society” - FHS – is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore.
Many people ask FHS activists why this NGO was formed and what is unique about you? “This NGO was formed in 2005 in Bangalore and is having presence in 16 states and in abroad too. We formed this NGO to protect and fight for the rights of the MEN. Everyone is concerned only about the rights of women but the society and Governments has forgotten about MEN’s right” Said Suresh P, who is President of the NGO.
“When there is a ministry for even animal (Animal Husbandry Ministry) why not for MEN?” asks FHS General Secretary M Mahesh and demands a ‘MEN’s welfare ministry’.
“In case of matrimonial disputes between husband and wife, all the related laws are made heavily in favor of estranged wife, giving no chance to husbands or his parents to defend. Why husbands are treated worst than criminals and terrorist?” asked PRO of FHS Raghvendra.
“Ajmal Amir Kasab was provided with free Government advocate and even though everyone knew he is guilty, enormous amount of resource of Government and Judiciary was wasted for his trial, but in case of matrimonial disputes when an estranged wife file a false complaint under IPC 498A, all the members of the husbands including females members like mother-in-law, sister-in-law and age old grandfather, grandmother are immediately arrested and sent to jail. Even minor children are not spared. What crime we have done? Are we worst than Ajmal Amir Kasab that without proving any charges we are arrested and sent to jail? Why each and every failed marriage is branded as Dowry case? Why each and every wife’s death is converted to dowry death case without an iota of proof and evidence” FHS activists Umesh G, has asked these uncomfortable questions to the Government?
The NGO is fighting for gender equality and a ministry for “MEN welfare”. It is asking to make a provision for Men to complaint for domestic violence, to bring 498a under civil law, to make 498a bailable. The members of the NGO say that “No arrest should be done before proper investigation” and “age old parent and children must not be arrested”. They also demand to dispose divorce and child custody cases within 1 year.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
TRUE CONVERSATION WITH A POTENTIAL 498A WOMAN
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:57 PM): hi
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:58 PM): fine
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:59 PM): n u?
Male (5/27/2010 2:30:39 PM): fine
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:38 PM): whats new
Female (5/27/2010 2:32:43 PM): nothing
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:44 PM): i have a q
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:59 PM): poochoon
Female (5/27/2010 2:33:07 PM): yeah
Male (5/27/2010 2:33:41 PM): is ur bro still going thru the 498a
Female (5/27/2010 2:35:53 PM): that notie u mean?
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:18 PM): u said ur bro's wife filed a case against ur
bro
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:22 PM): is it still going on
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:14 PM): nono
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:27 PM): we r filing against her family
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:07 PM): what case ur filing against her famil
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:22 PM): or u mean...u r filing against ur hubby's
family?
Female (5/27/2010 2:42:54 PM): we have filed a case against my bhabhis
family,.....
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:04 PM): to send back our daughter in law
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:15 PM): ok
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:31 PM): and are u also planning to file any case on ur
husband
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:53 PM): yeah
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:00 PM): but that will happen later
Male (5/27/2010 2:44:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:22 PM): 1st my parents n bro will go there....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:29 PM): n see if they can improve....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:33 PM): n if not....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:48 PM): then we will go in for divorce with mutual
consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:01 PM): what if he doesnt accept for mutual consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:09 PM): what will u do then
Female (5/27/2010 2:45:45 PM): then women cell mein complaint
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:07 PM): what complaint
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:09 PM): we have enuf proofs against them to make
them spend the rest of there lives in jail
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:15 PM): dowry
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:21 PM): ok..
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:23 PM): mental n physical torture
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:34 PM): what are the demands for "mutual consent"
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:56 PM): just that they return back my stuff n my
money n jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:59 PM): thats it
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:11 PM): whats ur stuff ..how much is the money and
jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:29 PM): worth abt 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:49 PM): so..your family has taken a cue from ayesha
siddiqui
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:52 PM): everything included
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:03 PM): who is she?
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:05 PM): and now u r using the law for your extortion
racket
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:27 PM): is it 5 crores or 6 crores
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:49 PM): u should not speak if u dont know
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:56 PM): u r saying it as though it is 500 or 600 rupees
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:21 PM): its not
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:24 PM): i know very well about your kind of people
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:26 PM): its just 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:34 PM): 5 crores or 6 crores?
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:44 PM): who r u to ask neways
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:11 PM): what ur bhabhi doing is wrong...what you are
doing is right?
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:14 PM): isnt it
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:31 PM): well....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:35 PM): i m saying again....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:39 PM): if u dont know....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:43 PM): u had better not talk
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:49 PM): i told u...i know your kind of people very well
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:57 PM): just get lost yaar
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:58 PM): i stand corrected...not very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:01 PM): very very very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:16 PM): i have another question
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:18 PM): shall i ask
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:21 PM): my dad spent 5 crores in my marriage
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:34 PM): he gave 1crores80lacs in my bank account
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:44 PM): jewellery worth Rs 1 crore
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:00 PM): all with legal papers
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:02 PM): ok?
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:03 PM): and why did he spend so much and gave so much
money...why?
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:10 PM): his wish
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:29 PM): ok he wished...but why did u people give..what
prompted u?
Female has signed out. (5/27/2010 2:52 PM)
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:58 PM): fine
Female (5/27/2010 2:30:59 PM): n u?
Male (5/27/2010 2:30:39 PM): fine
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:38 PM): whats new
Female (5/27/2010 2:32:43 PM): nothing
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:44 PM): i have a q
Male (5/27/2010 2:32:59 PM): poochoon
Female (5/27/2010 2:33:07 PM): yeah
Male (5/27/2010 2:33:41 PM): is ur bro still going thru the 498a
Female (5/27/2010 2:35:53 PM): that notie u mean?
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:18 PM): u said ur bro's wife filed a case against ur
bro
Male (5/27/2010 2:36:22 PM): is it still going on
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:14 PM): nono
Female (5/27/2010 2:37:27 PM): we r filing against her family
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:07 PM): what case ur filing against her famil
Male (5/27/2010 2:38:22 PM): or u mean...u r filing against ur hubby's
family?
Female (5/27/2010 2:42:54 PM): we have filed a case against my bhabhis
family,.....
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:04 PM): to send back our daughter in law
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:15 PM): ok
Male (5/27/2010 2:43:31 PM): and are u also planning to file any case on ur
husband
Female (5/27/2010 2:43:53 PM): yeah
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:00 PM): but that will happen later
Male (5/27/2010 2:44:02 PM): what case
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:22 PM): 1st my parents n bro will go there....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:29 PM): n see if they can improve....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:33 PM): n if not....
Female (5/27/2010 2:44:48 PM): then we will go in for divorce with mutual
consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:01 PM): what if he doesnt accept for mutual consent
Male (5/27/2010 2:45:09 PM): what will u do then
Female (5/27/2010 2:45:45 PM): then women cell mein complaint
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:07 PM): what complaint
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:09 PM): we have enuf proofs against them to make
them spend the rest of there lives in jail
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:15 PM): dowry
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:21 PM): ok..
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:23 PM): mental n physical torture
Male (5/27/2010 2:46:34 PM): what are the demands for "mutual consent"
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:56 PM): just that they return back my stuff n my
money n jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:46:59 PM): thats it
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:11 PM): whats ur stuff ..how much is the money and
jewellery
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:29 PM): worth abt 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:47:49 PM): so..your family has taken a cue from ayesha
siddiqui
Female (5/27/2010 2:47:52 PM): everything included
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:03 PM): who is she?
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:05 PM): and now u r using the law for your extortion
racket
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:27 PM): is it 5 crores or 6 crores
Female (5/27/2010 2:48:49 PM): u should not speak if u dont know
Male (5/27/2010 2:48:56 PM): u r saying it as though it is 500 or 600 rupees
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:21 PM): its not
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:24 PM): i know very well about your kind of people
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:26 PM): its just 5-6 crores
Male (5/27/2010 2:49:34 PM): 5 crores or 6 crores?
Female (5/27/2010 2:49:44 PM): who r u to ask neways
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:11 PM): what ur bhabhi doing is wrong...what you are
doing is right?
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:14 PM): isnt it
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:31 PM): well....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:35 PM): i m saying again....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:39 PM): if u dont know....
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:43 PM): u had better not talk
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:49 PM): i told u...i know your kind of people very well
Female (5/27/2010 2:50:57 PM): just get lost yaar
Male (5/27/2010 2:50:58 PM): i stand corrected...not very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:01 PM): very very very well
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:16 PM): i have another question
Male (5/27/2010 2:51:18 PM): shall i ask
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:21 PM): my dad spent 5 crores in my marriage
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:34 PM): he gave 1crores80lacs in my bank account
Female (5/27/2010 2:51:44 PM): jewellery worth Rs 1 crore
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:00 PM): all with legal papers
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:02 PM): ok?
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:03 PM): and why did he spend so much and gave so much
money...why?
Female (5/27/2010 2:52:10 PM): his wish
Male (5/27/2010 2:52:29 PM): ok he wished...but why did u people give..what
prompted u?
Female has signed out. (5/27/2010 2:52 PM)
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
101 uses of Wedding Gown
London, May 24 (ANI): A divorced man has
found a unique way to take revenge from his wife who spurned him - inventing 101
uses of her wedding gown - and blogging about it.
Kevin Cotter was left heartbroken as his high school sweetheart walked out
after 12 years of marriage - taking with her everything but her lace- and
pearl-embellished white wedding dress. "She had all of her stuff loaded and I
couldn't help but notice because this bridal keepsake box was dead centre on the
main shelf in the walk-in closet," he said. "She said 'I'm not taking it,' and
when I asked what I should do with it her reply was do whatever I wanted," The
Telegraph quoter Cotter as saying.
But Cotter decided to quit moping. Instead, he decided to channel his despair
into being constructive - and how! He has started a blog chronicling 101 uses
for the rejected dress - the blog has become a sensation on the Internet
garnering users from everywhere. One viewer suggested that the dress be used to
plug the hole in the leaking well in the Gulf of Mexico. Mr Cotter said he was
"not sure how we will shoot this one" - each suggestion features a video showing
the dress in action - but said he "really liked the idea".
So far, he has listed 23 uses - some of which include a yoga mat, a pasta
strainer, painter's cover sheet, ice pack, camera lens cleaner and even a dog
bed. Cotter aims to reach 101 uses and possibly publish a book about his
experience in trying to find uses for a garment that usually only gets one
outing.
Cotter's wife, who says she left the dress behind so that her daughter could
have it someday, told ABC news in a mail, "I wish all the best to Kevin and hope
he seeks counselling to deal with his anger and resentment. "His determination,
along with his family's support, to continue with this endeavour after his
children and I have asked him to stop is incomprehensible."
Cotter on the other hand, says that this 'project' has acted as a therapy for
him.
"Nothing about divorce is pleasant or easy and I will share some of my
experiences and at the same time lighten them up with some creative uses for
this dress I was stuck with," he said
found a unique way to take revenge from his wife who spurned him - inventing 101
uses of her wedding gown - and blogging about it.
Kevin Cotter was left heartbroken as his high school sweetheart walked out
after 12 years of marriage - taking with her everything but her lace- and
pearl-embellished white wedding dress. "She had all of her stuff loaded and I
couldn't help but notice because this bridal keepsake box was dead centre on the
main shelf in the walk-in closet," he said. "She said 'I'm not taking it,' and
when I asked what I should do with it her reply was do whatever I wanted," The
Telegraph quoter Cotter as saying.
But Cotter decided to quit moping. Instead, he decided to channel his despair
into being constructive - and how! He has started a blog chronicling 101 uses
for the rejected dress - the blog has become a sensation on the Internet
garnering users from everywhere. One viewer suggested that the dress be used to
plug the hole in the leaking well in the Gulf of Mexico. Mr Cotter said he was
"not sure how we will shoot this one" - each suggestion features a video showing
the dress in action - but said he "really liked the idea".
So far, he has listed 23 uses - some of which include a yoga mat, a pasta
strainer, painter's cover sheet, ice pack, camera lens cleaner and even a dog
bed. Cotter aims to reach 101 uses and possibly publish a book about his
experience in trying to find uses for a garment that usually only gets one
outing.
Cotter's wife, who says she left the dress behind so that her daughter could
have it someday, told ABC news in a mail, "I wish all the best to Kevin and hope
he seeks counselling to deal with his anger and resentment. "His determination,
along with his family's support, to continue with this endeavour after his
children and I have asked him to stop is incomprehensible."
Cotter on the other hand, says that this 'project' has acted as a therapy for
him.
"Nothing about divorce is pleasant or easy and I will share some of my
experiences and at the same time lighten them up with some creative uses for
this dress I was stuck with," he said
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A great topic in Central Chronicle
http://www.centralchronicle.com/viewnews.asp?articleID=36454
Personal Thought: Dowry Act misuse by women
Quite often women file/ lodge First Information Report (FIR) allegedly of harassment and return of dowry / gifts at the time of marriage. (Though dowry is banned but gifts of items in marriage especially by bride's side is still in vogue). In many cases the demand is in lakhs/ crores of rupees. Additionally charges are levied under The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act. The main idea is to get maximum financial benefit even without any base -just for revenge on not adjusting within new family atmosphere and wrongly blaming the husband and his family members including senior -old persons as this law is heavily in favour of women.
In the present materialistic world, most persons try to get the knot with rich persons having immoveable properties and lucrative salaries or wealthy rich parents. Their sole motive is all luxuries in life and to extract their wealth by women by making false claims on dowry and harassment etc and by man seeking such wealthy girl in question. Unfortunately in the eye of society women are treated as weaker section and most people take their side for most matters -they have a biased opinion that women are always correct in blaming the society or men folk. Who says women are more honest in their dealings?
All in all, it is the need of the hour to make Compulsory List of Dowry / gifts items including cash / other valuable items received as gifts from relatives and friends etc and get it registered along with Marriage Registration within 30 days of performing of marriage with appropriate authorities in the State where marriage takes place. Also all exiting couples whenever got married in the past must do with option that if they do not file such a list than in future their FIR/ case of Dowry / gifts etc shall not be entertained. The list of Dowry / Gift items must be made and signed by both bride and groom's family heads and be Notarized and scanned copy be filed through E-mail -to make it simple and automatic acknowledgement be generated for it and that is sufficient proof of deposit made. One copy must be kept by groom's family and other photocopy by bride's family.
Above suggestions if implemented shall reduce number of court cases. And false cases of dowry and harassment of groom's family members shall be minimum or just vanish.
All cases of Dowry/ Gifts less than Rupees Five Lakhs be exempted from above suggested changes in the laws. Also no case of Dowry return shall be accepted or FIR registered if the amount is below Rupees Five Lakhs.
On implementation of above suggestions, Lo bhaiya, the number of court cases and FIRs shall be reduced and life of people in the society shall be more peaceful to live in!, What more is needed?
Mahesh Kapasi
Personal Thought: Dowry Act misuse by women
Quite often women file/ lodge First Information Report (FIR) allegedly of harassment and return of dowry / gifts at the time of marriage. (Though dowry is banned but gifts of items in marriage especially by bride's side is still in vogue). In many cases the demand is in lakhs/ crores of rupees. Additionally charges are levied under The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act. The main idea is to get maximum financial benefit even without any base -just for revenge on not adjusting within new family atmosphere and wrongly blaming the husband and his family members including senior -old persons as this law is heavily in favour of women.
In the present materialistic world, most persons try to get the knot with rich persons having immoveable properties and lucrative salaries or wealthy rich parents. Their sole motive is all luxuries in life and to extract their wealth by women by making false claims on dowry and harassment etc and by man seeking such wealthy girl in question. Unfortunately in the eye of society women are treated as weaker section and most people take their side for most matters -they have a biased opinion that women are always correct in blaming the society or men folk. Who says women are more honest in their dealings?
All in all, it is the need of the hour to make Compulsory List of Dowry / gifts items including cash / other valuable items received as gifts from relatives and friends etc and get it registered along with Marriage Registration within 30 days of performing of marriage with appropriate authorities in the State where marriage takes place. Also all exiting couples whenever got married in the past must do with option that if they do not file such a list than in future their FIR/ case of Dowry / gifts etc shall not be entertained. The list of Dowry / Gift items must be made and signed by both bride and groom's family heads and be Notarized and scanned copy be filed through E-mail -to make it simple and automatic acknowledgement be generated for it and that is sufficient proof of deposit made. One copy must be kept by groom's family and other photocopy by bride's family.
Above suggestions if implemented shall reduce number of court cases. And false cases of dowry and harassment of groom's family members shall be minimum or just vanish.
All cases of Dowry/ Gifts less than Rupees Five Lakhs be exempted from above suggested changes in the laws. Also no case of Dowry return shall be accepted or FIR registered if the amount is below Rupees Five Lakhs.
On implementation of above suggestions, Lo bhaiya, the number of court cases and FIRs shall be reduced and life of people in the society shall be more peaceful to live in!, What more is needed?
Mahesh Kapasi
Indian women are INCAPABLE
It is admitted by indian law and legislation that indian women are not
capable enough to maintain them selves. That is why there are multiple
provision for them to get maintenance from husband so that these incapable
women can get the food to live.
if govt. admits the incapability of women, then why the question arises to
make them guardian for minor children. how somebody who is unable to
maintain herself, can maintain others.
A BIG JOKE BY OUR GOVT.
capable enough to maintain them selves. That is why there are multiple
provision for them to get maintenance from husband so that these incapable
women can get the food to live.
if govt. admits the incapability of women, then why the question arises to
make them guardian for minor children. how somebody who is unable to
maintain herself, can maintain others.
A BIG JOKE BY OUR GOVT.
Monday, May 24, 2010
INDIAN POLITICIANS DO NOT WANT A DOWRY FREE STATE
The menace of dowry can easily be eradicated from India. The still bigger menace of Misuse of Dowry Laws can again be easily eradicated.
Some reasons why the menace is still existing:
Many decades has been passed since enforcing of Dowry Prohibition Act,1961, in India but still it is claimed by the NCW and Government that Dowry menace is ever increasing in the society as the cases registered under this Act is increasing. The NCW & Government needs introspection here about their stats and wisdom.
If it’s so, then Why India is not able to eliminate this dowry menace from it’s society ?. Here, I have the answer:
India can’t be a dowry free State
1. Until National Commission for Women(NCW) is close down or disoriented.
2. Until Country is not forced to be run by feminists.
3. Until legislatures change their feministic view about family & marriage matters.
4. Until Courts realize their duty to take cognizance of Perjury (if any) against parents of bride.
5. Until the dowry givers are punished.
6. Until the IPC 498a is scraped.
7. Until the word “dowry” is used for every trouble caused to a woman.
8. Until every death of married women is termed as Dowry Death.
9. Until unscrupulous women are entitled for maintenance.
10. Until child custody is primarily the right of woman.
11. Until Domestic violence is attributed only to husband.
12. Until matrimonial laws are gender biased.
13. Until Woman Empowerment is done at the cost of womanhood.
14. Until false allegations has edge over truth legally.
15. Until Men Welfare Ministry is formed.
16. Until the existence of myth that India is a male dominating society.
And also
Until a true gender neutral study & research is done on violence in family & matrimonial matters.
Am I Wrong ?
Some reasons why the menace is still existing:
Many decades has been passed since enforcing of Dowry Prohibition Act,1961, in India but still it is claimed by the NCW and Government that Dowry menace is ever increasing in the society as the cases registered under this Act is increasing. The NCW & Government needs introspection here about their stats and wisdom.
If it’s so, then Why India is not able to eliminate this dowry menace from it’s society ?. Here, I have the answer:
India can’t be a dowry free State
1. Until National Commission for Women(NCW) is close down or disoriented.
2. Until Country is not forced to be run by feminists.
3. Until legislatures change their feministic view about family & marriage matters.
4. Until Courts realize their duty to take cognizance of Perjury (if any) against parents of bride.
5. Until the dowry givers are punished.
6. Until the IPC 498a is scraped.
7. Until the word “dowry” is used for every trouble caused to a woman.
8. Until every death of married women is termed as Dowry Death.
9. Until unscrupulous women are entitled for maintenance.
10. Until child custody is primarily the right of woman.
11. Until Domestic violence is attributed only to husband.
12. Until matrimonial laws are gender biased.
13. Until Woman Empowerment is done at the cost of womanhood.
14. Until false allegations has edge over truth legally.
15. Until Men Welfare Ministry is formed.
16. Until the existence of myth that India is a male dominating society.
And also
Until a true gender neutral study & research is done on violence in family & matrimonial matters.
Am I Wrong ?
BALM FOR MEN - AIMWA
Balm for men
http://www.tribuneindia.com/2010/20100523/spectrum/main4.htm
Several laws have been passed in the name of women's empowerment.
The All India Men's Welfare Association aims to protect men from domestic
violence and other forms of abuse, reports Nivedita Choudhuri
ASK someone about the problems of women, and a list would emerge that would never seem to end. Ask about men's problems, and you see only blank faces. Does that mean that men do not have any problem? Or is it that there is no awareness amongst the general public? Or is it just that men are simply taken for granted? If Uma Challa had her way, she would strive to bring in changes.
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The president of the newly-formed All-India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA) says the welfare of men and boys has been seriously neglected in India over the last few decades. While championing the cause of women's rights and empowerment, the government and society tacitly approve of the propagation of anti-male sentiments, condone the resultant diminution in value of men's lives and support the blatant violation of men's rights through discriminatory laws and policies.
Challa says several laws have been passed since Independence in the name of women's empowerment. However, there are no laws to protect men from any form of abuse or harassment within and outside the home, and a man is always thought of as an aggressor, and a woman as victim. Challa focusses on the "legal terrorism" in India unleashed through laws such as Section 498-A, IPC, and the Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA).
Section 498-A, for example, deals with matrimonial cruelty and allows for immediate arrest of a woman's husband and in-laws on the basis of her complaint. Challa says this law is being grossly misused by women for their selfish ends. AIMWA was launched in October, 2009, which was observed as domestic violence awareness month. Four organisations — Save Indian Family Foundation, All-India Forgotten Women, Rishtey and Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting — launched a month-long campaign in Hyderabad on October 2, International Day of Non-Violence.
Challa says the campaign aims at educating Indians about how the problem of domestic violence has been misrepresented, and how laws claiming to prevent domestic violence are actually promoting human rights abuses against men, women and children. An association member cites the example of 58-year-old Aneek, who claims to have invested all his money in his wife's name. He is now on the verge of retirement, and his wife is showing him the door. She has filed a case under the Domestic Violence Act against him, and her lawyer has threatened him with a view to extort money.
Aneek also claims to be a victim of domestic violence himself, and says his wife has slapped and punched him on many occasions. Or, take the case of Gaurav, who has been booked under Section 498-A along with his parents and mentally-challenged sister. His disabled sister and mother, a kidney patient for over two decades, managed to secure bail. However, his father lost his secure government job after he was arrested and spent more than 48 hours in the police lock-up. The family is now in dire financial straits as there is no earning member. Gaurav has started studying law in a bid to understand his rights better.
He is worried about the loan his father had taken out to fund his estranged daughter-in-law's studies. Gaurav has no idea how he will repay it. The founders of AIMWA say the helplines that were set up for male victims have not stopped ringing since October. More than 40 calls are received each day from distressed husbands. The association also conducts counselling sessions for men who develop suicidal tendencies due to the mental anguish they face. The pain and agony that men go through when subjected to domestic violence is much like what women face when ill-treated, adds another member. However, while people sympathise with women, men find no listeners.
While society is applauding more and more women getting educated, entering the job market and challenging their traditional roles within the family and society, men are still being shackled to their traditional roles of protecting and providing for women, children and the aged. AIMWA
members claim the growing disregard against males in India is forcing more than 50,000 men to end their lives every year.
Challa says domestic and social harmony will prevail only when women and men are ensured their rightful place within and outside the home.
http://www.tribuneindia.com/2010/20100523/spectrum/main4.htm
Several laws have been passed in the name of women's empowerment.
The All India Men's Welfare Association aims to protect men from domestic
violence and other forms of abuse, reports Nivedita Choudhuri
ASK someone about the problems of women, and a list would emerge that would never seem to end. Ask about men's problems, and you see only blank faces. Does that mean that men do not have any problem? Or is it that there is no awareness amongst the general public? Or is it just that men are simply taken for granted? If Uma Challa had her way, she would strive to bring in changes.
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The All-India Men's Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment
The president of the newly-formed All-India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA) says the welfare of men and boys has been seriously neglected in India over the last few decades. While championing the cause of women's rights and empowerment, the government and society tacitly approve of the propagation of anti-male sentiments, condone the resultant diminution in value of men's lives and support the blatant violation of men's rights through discriminatory laws and policies.
Challa says several laws have been passed since Independence in the name of women's empowerment. However, there are no laws to protect men from any form of abuse or harassment within and outside the home, and a man is always thought of as an aggressor, and a woman as victim. Challa focusses on the "legal terrorism" in India unleashed through laws such as Section 498-A, IPC, and the Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA).
Section 498-A, for example, deals with matrimonial cruelty and allows for immediate arrest of a woman's husband and in-laws on the basis of her complaint. Challa says this law is being grossly misused by women for their selfish ends. AIMWA was launched in October, 2009, which was observed as domestic violence awareness month. Four organisations — Save Indian Family Foundation, All-India Forgotten Women, Rishtey and Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting — launched a month-long campaign in Hyderabad on October 2, International Day of Non-Violence.
Challa says the campaign aims at educating Indians about how the problem of domestic violence has been misrepresented, and how laws claiming to prevent domestic violence are actually promoting human rights abuses against men, women and children. An association member cites the example of 58-year-old Aneek, who claims to have invested all his money in his wife's name. He is now on the verge of retirement, and his wife is showing him the door. She has filed a case under the Domestic Violence Act against him, and her lawyer has threatened him with a view to extort money.
Aneek also claims to be a victim of domestic violence himself, and says his wife has slapped and punched him on many occasions. Or, take the case of Gaurav, who has been booked under Section 498-A along with his parents and mentally-challenged sister. His disabled sister and mother, a kidney patient for over two decades, managed to secure bail. However, his father lost his secure government job after he was arrested and spent more than 48 hours in the police lock-up. The family is now in dire financial straits as there is no earning member. Gaurav has started studying law in a bid to understand his rights better.
He is worried about the loan his father had taken out to fund his estranged daughter-in-law's studies. Gaurav has no idea how he will repay it. The founders of AIMWA say the helplines that were set up for male victims have not stopped ringing since October. More than 40 calls are received each day from distressed husbands. The association also conducts counselling sessions for men who develop suicidal tendencies due to the mental anguish they face. The pain and agony that men go through when subjected to domestic violence is much like what women face when ill-treated, adds another member. However, while people sympathise with women, men find no listeners.
While society is applauding more and more women getting educated, entering the job market and challenging their traditional roles within the family and society, men are still being shackled to their traditional roles of protecting and providing for women, children and the aged. AIMWA
members claim the growing disregard against males in India is forcing more than 50,000 men to end their lives every year.
Challa says domestic and social harmony will prevail only when women and men are ensured their rightful place within and outside the home.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
INFORMATION DENIED PROVES COSTLY- WELL DONE SIFFIAN
भिलाई.
सूचना के अधिकार के तहत जानकारी न देना ही नहीं बल्कि विलंब से और भ्रामक जानकारी देना भी दोषपूर्ण है। ऐसे ही प्रकरण में एक आदेश दुर्ग की पूर्व थाना प्रभारी स्वाति मिश्रा के खिलाफ पारित हुआ है।
सेव इंडिया फेमिली के सदस्य एवं प्रार्थी संतराम स्वर्णकार के आवेदन पर राज्य सूचना आयोग ने यह निर्णय दिया है। संतराम स्वर्णकार ने अपनी बहू द्वारा लगाए गए दहेज लेने के आरोप के बाद 24 अगस्त 2008 को दुर्ग महिला थाना में धारा 3 के तहत बहू के मायके वालों पर दहेज देने के जुर्म में अपराध दर्ज करने के लिए आवेदन दिया था जिसपर थाना प्रभारी ने कोई कार्रवाई नहीं की।
इसके बाद प्रार्थी ने 24 सिंतबर 08 को सूचना के अधिकार के तहत आवेदन लगाकर कार्रवाई के बारे में जानकारी चाही। जिसपर जानकारी न देते हुए थाना प्रभारी ने 29 सिंतबर को उनका एवं उनके पुत्र का बयान लिया और तीन महीने तक कोई कार्रवाई नहीं की। इसके बाद प्रार्थी ने 19 फरवरी 09 को प्रथम अपीलीय अधिकारी के पास अपील की। इसकी सुनवाई 24 अप्रैल 09 को हुई और एक सप्ताह के भीतर थाना प्रभारी ने उन्हें जानकारी दी।
प्रार्थी को वह जानकारी त्रुटिपूर्ण लगी और उन्होंने राज्य सूचना आयोग के समक्ष अपील की। इधर अपील के दौरान प्रार्थी ने बताया कि उन्हें जो जानकारी दी गई है वह त्रुटिपूर्ण है, क्योंकि उन्होंने वधू पक्ष के विरूद्ध भी दहेज देने का प्रकरण दर्ज करने की कार्रवाई चाही थी और उस कार्रवाई का स्पष्ट उल्लेख नहीं है।
इस पर मुख्य सूचना आयुक्त ने प्रकरण में तत्कालीन थाना प्रभारी को विलंब के लिए दोषी पाते हुए अधिनियम की धारा 20(1) के तहत पांच हजार रुपए की शास्ति अधिरोपित की। साथ ही पुलिस महानिदेशक को निर्देश दिया कि अगर अपीलार्थी के आवेदन पर की गई कार्रवाई में कोई वैधानिक या प्रक्रियात्मक त्रुटि तत्कालीन थाना प्रभारी द्वारा की गई है तो वरिष्ठ अधिकारी से जांच कराई जाए और दोषी पाए जाने पर विभागीय अनुशासनात्मक कार्रवाई की जाए। इसके बाद सूचना आयुक्त ने प्रार्थी को मानसिक क्षति के लिए विभाग की ओर से 5 सौ रुपए हर्जाना देने का भी निर्देश दिया है।
सूचना के अधिकार के तहत जानकारी न देना ही नहीं बल्कि विलंब से और भ्रामक जानकारी देना भी दोषपूर्ण है। ऐसे ही प्रकरण में एक आदेश दुर्ग की पूर्व थाना प्रभारी स्वाति मिश्रा के खिलाफ पारित हुआ है।
सेव इंडिया फेमिली के सदस्य एवं प्रार्थी संतराम स्वर्णकार के आवेदन पर राज्य सूचना आयोग ने यह निर्णय दिया है। संतराम स्वर्णकार ने अपनी बहू द्वारा लगाए गए दहेज लेने के आरोप के बाद 24 अगस्त 2008 को दुर्ग महिला थाना में धारा 3 के तहत बहू के मायके वालों पर दहेज देने के जुर्म में अपराध दर्ज करने के लिए आवेदन दिया था जिसपर थाना प्रभारी ने कोई कार्रवाई नहीं की।
इसके बाद प्रार्थी ने 24 सिंतबर 08 को सूचना के अधिकार के तहत आवेदन लगाकर कार्रवाई के बारे में जानकारी चाही। जिसपर जानकारी न देते हुए थाना प्रभारी ने 29 सिंतबर को उनका एवं उनके पुत्र का बयान लिया और तीन महीने तक कोई कार्रवाई नहीं की। इसके बाद प्रार्थी ने 19 फरवरी 09 को प्रथम अपीलीय अधिकारी के पास अपील की। इसकी सुनवाई 24 अप्रैल 09 को हुई और एक सप्ताह के भीतर थाना प्रभारी ने उन्हें जानकारी दी।
प्रार्थी को वह जानकारी त्रुटिपूर्ण लगी और उन्होंने राज्य सूचना आयोग के समक्ष अपील की। इधर अपील के दौरान प्रार्थी ने बताया कि उन्हें जो जानकारी दी गई है वह त्रुटिपूर्ण है, क्योंकि उन्होंने वधू पक्ष के विरूद्ध भी दहेज देने का प्रकरण दर्ज करने की कार्रवाई चाही थी और उस कार्रवाई का स्पष्ट उल्लेख नहीं है।
इस पर मुख्य सूचना आयुक्त ने प्रकरण में तत्कालीन थाना प्रभारी को विलंब के लिए दोषी पाते हुए अधिनियम की धारा 20(1) के तहत पांच हजार रुपए की शास्ति अधिरोपित की। साथ ही पुलिस महानिदेशक को निर्देश दिया कि अगर अपीलार्थी के आवेदन पर की गई कार्रवाई में कोई वैधानिक या प्रक्रियात्मक त्रुटि तत्कालीन थाना प्रभारी द्वारा की गई है तो वरिष्ठ अधिकारी से जांच कराई जाए और दोषी पाए जाने पर विभागीय अनुशासनात्मक कार्रवाई की जाए। इसके बाद सूचना आयुक्त ने प्रार्थी को मानसिक क्षति के लिए विभाग की ओर से 5 सौ रुपए हर्जाना देने का भी निर्देश दिया है।
Saturday, May 22, 2010
REALITIES OF WIVES
The following statements were proven as completely true by a panel of distinguished men (who were immediately clubbed to death by their wives).
Q: Do you know the punishment for bigamy?
A: Two mothers-in-law.
Q: Why is a Laundromat a really bad place to pick up a woman?
A: Because a woman who can’t even afford a washing machine will never be able to support you.
Q: Did you hear they finally made a device that makes cars run 95% quieter?
A: Yeah, it fits right over her mouth.
Q: Why are hangovers better than women?
A: Hangovers will go away.
Q: Why do women have smaller feet than men?
A: So they can stand closer to the sink.
Q: How do you know when a woman’s about to say something smart?
A: When she starts her sentence with "A man once told me...."
Q: How do you fix a woman’s watch?
A: You don’t...there is a clock on the oven.
Q: Why do men pass gas more than women?
A: Because women won’t shut up long enough to build up pressure.
Q: Why were shopping carts invented?
A: To teach women to walk on their hind legs.
Women are like guns. Keep one around long enough and you are going to want to shoot it.
Q: If your dog is barking at the back door and your wife is yelling at the front door, who do you let in first? A: The dog of course ... at least he’ll shut up after you let him in!
One golfer tells another: "Hey, guess what! I got a set of golf clubs for my wife!" The other replies: "GREAT trade!"
All wives are alike, but they have different faces so you can tell them apart.
Q: How many men does it take to open a beer?
A: None. It should be opened by the time she brings it in.
Q: What’s worse than a Male Chauvinist Pig?
A: A woman that won’t do what she’s told!
Q: How many women does it take to paint a wall?
A: It depends on how hard you throw them.
Q: What do you call a woman with two brain cells?
A: Pregnant.
I married Miss Right. I just didn’t know her first name was Always.
Losing a wife can be hard. In my case, it was almost impossible.
I haven’t spoken to my wife for 18 months - I don’t like to interrupt her.
Women are so unreasonable! My wife gets mad at me because every Saturday night I take a bath with bubbles in it. I mean, if Bubbles doesn’t mind, why should she?
Q: What do you call a woman who has lost 95% of her intelligence?
A: Divorced.
Some mornings I wake up grouchy...and some mornings I just let her sleep.
Bigamy is having one wife too many.
Some say monogamy is the same.
Scientists have discovered a food that diminishes a women’s sex drive by 90 percent... wedding cake!!
Q: Do you know the punishment for bigamy?
A: Two mothers-in-law.
Q: Why is a Laundromat a really bad place to pick up a woman?
A: Because a woman who can’t even afford a washing machine will never be able to support you.
Q: Did you hear they finally made a device that makes cars run 95% quieter?
A: Yeah, it fits right over her mouth.
Q: Why are hangovers better than women?
A: Hangovers will go away.
Q: Why do women have smaller feet than men?
A: So they can stand closer to the sink.
Q: How do you know when a woman’s about to say something smart?
A: When she starts her sentence with "A man once told me...."
Q: How do you fix a woman’s watch?
A: You don’t...there is a clock on the oven.
Q: Why do men pass gas more than women?
A: Because women won’t shut up long enough to build up pressure.
Q: Why were shopping carts invented?
A: To teach women to walk on their hind legs.
Women are like guns. Keep one around long enough and you are going to want to shoot it.
Q: If your dog is barking at the back door and your wife is yelling at the front door, who do you let in first? A: The dog of course ... at least he’ll shut up after you let him in!
One golfer tells another: "Hey, guess what! I got a set of golf clubs for my wife!" The other replies: "GREAT trade!"
All wives are alike, but they have different faces so you can tell them apart.
Q: How many men does it take to open a beer?
A: None. It should be opened by the time she brings it in.
Q: What’s worse than a Male Chauvinist Pig?
A: A woman that won’t do what she’s told!
Q: How many women does it take to paint a wall?
A: It depends on how hard you throw them.
Q: What do you call a woman with two brain cells?
A: Pregnant.
I married Miss Right. I just didn’t know her first name was Always.
Losing a wife can be hard. In my case, it was almost impossible.
I haven’t spoken to my wife for 18 months - I don’t like to interrupt her.
Women are so unreasonable! My wife gets mad at me because every Saturday night I take a bath with bubbles in it. I mean, if Bubbles doesn’t mind, why should she?
Q: What do you call a woman who has lost 95% of her intelligence?
A: Divorced.
Some mornings I wake up grouchy...and some mornings I just let her sleep.
Bigamy is having one wife too many.
Some say monogamy is the same.
Scientists have discovered a food that diminishes a women’s sex drive by 90 percent... wedding cake!!
Friday, May 21, 2010
Absconder worked as JUDGE in same city
NOW THIS IS FUNNY & REVEALS THE TRUTH TOO AT THE SAME TIME, HOW EASY IS IT TO FOOL THE SYSTEM IN INDIA...
A man who was declared an absconder by a court in Indore worked as a judge in a superior court in the same city for years before his past caught up with him.
The Madhya Pradesh High Court has suspended Additional District and Sessions Judge Narendra Kumar Jain for concealing the matter.
As a student of Christian College in Indore, Jain, along with four friends, was involved in a brawl with a hotel owner and his son in 1983. The owner, whose nasal bone was broken, lodged a police complaint that led to the arrest of Jain and his friends.
Jain was released on bail and appeared in court once in 1985. He was declared an absconder by the court when he did not appear later despite repeated summons.
Jain cleared an examination meant for judicial officers in 1994 but suppressed the fact that he was involved in a criminal case and was facing trial.
A man who was declared an absconder by a court in Indore worked as a judge in a superior court in the same city for years before his past caught up with him.
The Madhya Pradesh High Court has suspended Additional District and Sessions Judge Narendra Kumar Jain for concealing the matter.
As a student of Christian College in Indore, Jain, along with four friends, was involved in a brawl with a hotel owner and his son in 1983. The owner, whose nasal bone was broken, lodged a police complaint that led to the arrest of Jain and his friends.
Jain was released on bail and appeared in court once in 1985. He was declared an absconder by the court when he did not appear later despite repeated summons.
Jain cleared an examination meant for judicial officers in 1994 but suppressed the fact that he was involved in a criminal case and was facing trial.
WOMEN JEALOUSY - DIVORCE IF HUBBY IS HAPPIER
THIS TAKES A BITE ON THE JEALOUS NATURE OF WOMEN.OUT OF JEALOUSY THEY EVEN BURN THEIR OWN FINGERS.
http://www.deccanherald.com/content/70626/divorce-likely-husband-happier-wife.html
Washington, May 20, (PTI):
It may appear a bit strange, but ladies, please note - if your hubby is happier
than you, then divorce is likely, a new study has claimed.
Economists at Deakin University have carried out studies and found that divorce
is more likely if married couples have different happiness levels - especially
if the husband is happier.
For the study, the economists analysed data from three different countries
Australia, Germany and Britain and found that the higher the gap in
happiness, even during the first year of marriage, the higher the risk of
divorce.
Also, in three countries across all couples, women were happier than men. But
men were happier than women during marriage only for those couples whose
marriages ended with divorce, the study found. Lead economist Dr Cahit Guven
said: “We found that the gap in happiness is typically several times higher
for couples in de facto relationships than for those who are married.
Interestingly, the happiness gap decreases after the divorce for the divorced
couples. However, the happiness gap between the divorced spouses after the
divorce is still higher than those couples who stay married.
This shows that they have made a bad choice at the beginning and the
happiness gap stays at some level and does not disappear even though they are
not together anymore.
Dr Guven said: Evidence is also emerging to suggest that people have a
happiness baseline which may flow according to life events, but it rarely stays
below a certain level.
http://www.deccanherald.com/content/70626/divorce-likely-husband-happier-wife.html
Washington, May 20, (PTI):
It may appear a bit strange, but ladies, please note - if your hubby is happier
than you, then divorce is likely, a new study has claimed.
Economists at Deakin University have carried out studies and found that divorce
is more likely if married couples have different happiness levels - especially
if the husband is happier.
For the study, the economists analysed data from three different countries
Australia, Germany and Britain and found that the higher the gap in
happiness, even during the first year of marriage, the higher the risk of
divorce.
Also, in three countries across all couples, women were happier than men. But
men were happier than women during marriage only for those couples whose
marriages ended with divorce, the study found. Lead economist Dr Cahit Guven
said: “We found that the gap in happiness is typically several times higher
for couples in de facto relationships than for those who are married.
Interestingly, the happiness gap decreases after the divorce for the divorced
couples. However, the happiness gap between the divorced spouses after the
divorce is still higher than those couples who stay married.
This shows that they have made a bad choice at the beginning and the
happiness gap stays at some level and does not disappear even though they are
not together anymore.
Dr Guven said: Evidence is also emerging to suggest that people have a
happiness baseline which may flow according to life events, but it rarely stays
below a certain level.
PROVE CRUELTY IN DOWRY DEATH- SUPREME COURT
http://www.deccanherald.com/content/70500/sc-prove-cruelty-dowry-death.html
New Delhi,May 19, pti:
The Supreme Court has held that husband or other family members can be convicted
for dowry death only if it is proved that the wife was subjected to cruelty or
harassment in pursuit of the demand and not on mere presumption.
The apex court said Section 304-B (dowry death) can be invoked against the
accused only if there is material evidence to support the allegation and not on
mere presumption that the victim died within seven years of marriage.
Under Section 304-B read with Section 113-B of the Indian Evidence Act, a
husband and his family members can be prosecuted for causing dowry death of the
woman if the same occurs within seven years of the marriage.
In order to hold an accused guilty of an offence under Section 304-B of the
IPC, it has to be shown that apart from the fact that the woman died on account
of burns or bodily injury, otherwise than under normal circumstances within
seven years of marriage, it also has to be shown that soon before her death, she
was subjected to cruelty or harassment by her husband or any relative of her
husband for, or in connection with, any demand for dowry.
Only then would such death be called dowry death and such husband or relative
shall be deemed to have caused the death of the woman concerned, a bench of
Justices Altamas Kabir and H L Gokhale said in a judgement.
The apex court passed the judgment while acquitting Durga Prasad and one of his
relatives sentenced to seven years imprisonment in a case of harassment and
dowry death in Madhya Pradesh.
A sessions court had sentenced the accused for harassing Kripa Bai for dowry
resulting in her committing suicide.
New Delhi,May 19, pti:
The Supreme Court has held that husband or other family members can be convicted
for dowry death only if it is proved that the wife was subjected to cruelty or
harassment in pursuit of the demand and not on mere presumption.
The apex court said Section 304-B (dowry death) can be invoked against the
accused only if there is material evidence to support the allegation and not on
mere presumption that the victim died within seven years of marriage.
Under Section 304-B read with Section 113-B of the Indian Evidence Act, a
husband and his family members can be prosecuted for causing dowry death of the
woman if the same occurs within seven years of the marriage.
In order to hold an accused guilty of an offence under Section 304-B of the
IPC, it has to be shown that apart from the fact that the woman died on account
of burns or bodily injury, otherwise than under normal circumstances within
seven years of marriage, it also has to be shown that soon before her death, she
was subjected to cruelty or harassment by her husband or any relative of her
husband for, or in connection with, any demand for dowry.
Only then would such death be called dowry death and such husband or relative
shall be deemed to have caused the death of the woman concerned, a bench of
Justices Altamas Kabir and H L Gokhale said in a judgement.
The apex court passed the judgment while acquitting Durga Prasad and one of his
relatives sentenced to seven years imprisonment in a case of harassment and
dowry death in Madhya Pradesh.
A sessions court had sentenced the accused for harassing Kripa Bai for dowry
resulting in her committing suicide.
CIC GIVES ACCUSED THE RIGHT TO KNOW
Even the accused has a right to know and the victim's family can seek information about ongoing investigations, the Central Information Commission has ruled, in two different cases.In the first case, Nahar Singh, against whom Delhi Police had initiated externment proceeding, wanted to know the basis on which the externment process was started. The police refused information pleading that revealing such information may lead to interference with on-going magisterial proceedings.In his decision, Information Commission AN Tiwari said that report of lower police officers to their superiors on his externment should be shared with the accused in normal course and is not barred from disclosing under Section 8 (1) of the Right to Information Act. However, the police can protect the interests of witnesses or any other person, whose name is there in the report, by not providing them to the accused, Tiwari said, while asking Delhi Police to provide information to Singh within two weeks.In the second case, Mangto Ram, had sought information about the investigations into death of his daughter under unexplained circumstances. Delhi Police refused information citing section 8 (1)(h) of the RTI Act that exempts sharing of information that can impede the outcome of ongoing investigations.Information Commission AN Tiwari differed with the police and said the exception to the section can be applied as the victim's family doesn't want any obstacles in the on going investigations. 'Far from impeding the investigation, taking the appellant into confidence will give a positive direction to the investigation and enable the authorities to swiftly reach at the truth,' Tiwari, said in his order.
Judge took Rs 15 lakh as bribe, reveals RTI
THE BELOW NEWS WAS PUBLISHED IN THE MONTH OF JANUARY 2010 IN THE NEWSPAPERS. MORE THAN 4 MONTHS ARE OVER AND THE ACCUSED IS ENJOYING LIFE ...LIKE A MAHARANI.
WHAT MORE TO SHOW THE PATHETIC LEVELS OF JUSTICE IN THIS COUNTRY...INDIA.
Chandigarh: Punjab judge Justice Nirmal Yadav, now a judge of the Uttrakhand High Court is in the dock once again.
Two months after she was given a clean chit in a bribery case by the Supreme Court and the Central Government, a Right to Information (RTI) application filed by Hindustan Times reveals that Punjab Governor and Chandigarh administrator General S F Rodrigues had had brought to the notice of the then Chief Justice Tirath Singh Thakur of Punjab and Haryana High Court in August 2008 that Justice Nirmal Yadav, a sitting High Court judge, had been paid Rs 15 lakh as bribe.
Yadav was implicated in the cash-at-door scandal when the Chandigarh police reported that a parcel containing Rs 15 lakh intended for Nirmal Yadav was mistakenly handed over to Justice Nirmaljit Kaur.
Justice Yadav was then a judge in the Punjab and Haryana High Court.
Gokhale committee constituted by Supreme Court too had had found that a case is made out against Yadav.
However, the Attorney General Goolam E Vahanvati had later denied sanction to prosecute Yadav saying there was not enough grounds for a case.
The coming out clean of Justice Yadav.despite concurrent findings by three agencies has confused the jurists.
Special public prosecutor Anupam Gupta said, “The case of Justice Yadav is a copybook example of the miscarriage and double standards that pervades the Indian judicial system.”
WHAT MORE TO SHOW THE PATHETIC LEVELS OF JUSTICE IN THIS COUNTRY...INDIA.
Chandigarh: Punjab judge Justice Nirmal Yadav, now a judge of the Uttrakhand High Court is in the dock once again.
Two months after she was given a clean chit in a bribery case by the Supreme Court and the Central Government, a Right to Information (RTI) application filed by Hindustan Times reveals that Punjab Governor and Chandigarh administrator General S F Rodrigues had had brought to the notice of the then Chief Justice Tirath Singh Thakur of Punjab and Haryana High Court in August 2008 that Justice Nirmal Yadav, a sitting High Court judge, had been paid Rs 15 lakh as bribe.
Yadav was implicated in the cash-at-door scandal when the Chandigarh police reported that a parcel containing Rs 15 lakh intended for Nirmal Yadav was mistakenly handed over to Justice Nirmaljit Kaur.
Justice Yadav was then a judge in the Punjab and Haryana High Court.
Gokhale committee constituted by Supreme Court too had had found that a case is made out against Yadav.
However, the Attorney General Goolam E Vahanvati had later denied sanction to prosecute Yadav saying there was not enough grounds for a case.
The coming out clean of Justice Yadav.despite concurrent findings by three agencies has confused the jurists.
Special public prosecutor Anupam Gupta said, “The case of Justice Yadav is a copybook example of the miscarriage and double standards that pervades the Indian judicial system.”
Police involved in selling ‘unclaimed bodies', reveals RTI query
Rajkumar Soni
JAIPUR: A Right to Information (RTI) query by the father of a murdered young man in Sriganganagar town of Rajasthan has revealed a sordid story of police officers allegedly selling bodies of “unidentified deceased” to private medical colleges for conducting experiments. The next of kin of the deceased were kept in the dark about the illegal transactions.
Rajkumar Soni, father of 19-year-old Rahul who was allegedly murdered in May last year, has lodged an FIR against Sriganganagar Superintendent of Police Umesh Chand Dutta and seven others through a complaint filed in a local court while charging them with handing over his son's body illegally to Tantia Medical College in the city.
Mr. Soni, owner of a jewellery shop in Sriganganagar, told reporters at Pink City Press Club here on Monday that the police did not make any effort to trace his son's relatives after he was found unconscious and gave the corpse illegally to the medical college just 10 minutes after the post-mortem. He later obtained the body from the medical institution on a hefty payment.
Policemen at the Kotwali police station initially told Mr. Soni that Rahul's body had been cremated. When asked for the address of the crematorium, they told him that the corpse had been shifted to the medical college “for its preservation”.
Rahul was found unconscious with heavy injuries at a public park in the town on May 25 last year. An ambulance took him to the District Hospital where he died the next day. The police treated him as an unidentified deceased and gave his body to the medical college in violation of the Transplantation of Human Organs Act, 1994.
Mr. Soni said neither the doctors at the hospital tried to save his son nor did the police make any effort to trace his relatives. The police merely questioned four youngsters and did not try to catch the culprits of murder. Mr. Soni has lodged a separate FIR against four doctors and two nurses under Section 304 (culpable homicide not amounting to murder) of IPC.
Through an application filed under the Right to Information Act, 2005, Mr. Soni obtained the details of disposal of unidentified bodies by all police stations in the district. “I was shocked to know that just three police stations gave away 23 bodies illegally to medical colleges during the last five years,” he said.
A gazette notification issued under the Rajasthan Anatomical Act, 1986, lays down the procedure for handing over the bodies of unidentified deceased to medical colleges on the application filed by the latter. The competent officer for Sriganganagar district for the purpose is the Superintendent of P. B. M. Hospital, Bikaner. No corpse can be removed from the hospital before the expiry of 48 hours from autopsy.
“Police officials brazenly violated the legal provisions not only in the case of my son's body but also in all the previous 23 instances. Their act depicts a classic illustration of protectors of law themselves turning into the criminals,” said Mr. Soni.
Mr. Soni alleged that police officers were repeatedly threatening him with dire consequences because his FIR had named the SP, Circle Officer, Station House Officer and owner of the medical college as accused. “Despite the SP being one of the main accused, the investigation has been handed over to the Additional SP of Raisinghnagar, who functions under him,” he said.
Mr. Soni said the district police had given “false information” to the State Assembly when the matter was taken up through a question during the previous session. The police said they had made all efforts to identify the deceased and later shifted the body to Tantia Medical College as there was “no other arrangement” to keep it safe. Mr. Soni further alleged that police officers were involved in a racket of supplying unidentified bodies flowing from neighbouring Punjab in the Indira Gandhi Canal to medical institutions without their post-mortem for the past several years. The police records falsely show these corpses as having been cremated.
http://www.thehindu.com/2010/03/30/stories/2010033058980500.htm
JAIPUR: A Right to Information (RTI) query by the father of a murdered young man in Sriganganagar town of Rajasthan has revealed a sordid story of police officers allegedly selling bodies of “unidentified deceased” to private medical colleges for conducting experiments. The next of kin of the deceased were kept in the dark about the illegal transactions.
Rajkumar Soni, father of 19-year-old Rahul who was allegedly murdered in May last year, has lodged an FIR against Sriganganagar Superintendent of Police Umesh Chand Dutta and seven others through a complaint filed in a local court while charging them with handing over his son's body illegally to Tantia Medical College in the city.
Mr. Soni, owner of a jewellery shop in Sriganganagar, told reporters at Pink City Press Club here on Monday that the police did not make any effort to trace his son's relatives after he was found unconscious and gave the corpse illegally to the medical college just 10 minutes after the post-mortem. He later obtained the body from the medical institution on a hefty payment.
Policemen at the Kotwali police station initially told Mr. Soni that Rahul's body had been cremated. When asked for the address of the crematorium, they told him that the corpse had been shifted to the medical college “for its preservation”.
Rahul was found unconscious with heavy injuries at a public park in the town on May 25 last year. An ambulance took him to the District Hospital where he died the next day. The police treated him as an unidentified deceased and gave his body to the medical college in violation of the Transplantation of Human Organs Act, 1994.
Mr. Soni said neither the doctors at the hospital tried to save his son nor did the police make any effort to trace his relatives. The police merely questioned four youngsters and did not try to catch the culprits of murder. Mr. Soni has lodged a separate FIR against four doctors and two nurses under Section 304 (culpable homicide not amounting to murder) of IPC.
Through an application filed under the Right to Information Act, 2005, Mr. Soni obtained the details of disposal of unidentified bodies by all police stations in the district. “I was shocked to know that just three police stations gave away 23 bodies illegally to medical colleges during the last five years,” he said.
A gazette notification issued under the Rajasthan Anatomical Act, 1986, lays down the procedure for handing over the bodies of unidentified deceased to medical colleges on the application filed by the latter. The competent officer for Sriganganagar district for the purpose is the Superintendent of P. B. M. Hospital, Bikaner. No corpse can be removed from the hospital before the expiry of 48 hours from autopsy.
“Police officials brazenly violated the legal provisions not only in the case of my son's body but also in all the previous 23 instances. Their act depicts a classic illustration of protectors of law themselves turning into the criminals,” said Mr. Soni.
Mr. Soni alleged that police officers were repeatedly threatening him with dire consequences because his FIR had named the SP, Circle Officer, Station House Officer and owner of the medical college as accused. “Despite the SP being one of the main accused, the investigation has been handed over to the Additional SP of Raisinghnagar, who functions under him,” he said.
Mr. Soni said the district police had given “false information” to the State Assembly when the matter was taken up through a question during the previous session. The police said they had made all efforts to identify the deceased and later shifted the body to Tantia Medical College as there was “no other arrangement” to keep it safe. Mr. Soni further alleged that police officers were involved in a racket of supplying unidentified bodies flowing from neighbouring Punjab in the Indira Gandhi Canal to medical institutions without their post-mortem for the past several years. The police records falsely show these corpses as having been cremated.
http://www.thehindu.com/2010/03/30/stories/2010033058980500.htm
INFORMATION UNDER RTI CAN BE PROVIDED TO THE THIRD PARTY
Punjab Chief Information Commissioner R I Singh has asked the police to provide an RTI applicant a copy of the inquiry report into a land deal, in which a woman allegedly sold part of a public street through a registered deed.
Dismissing the police plea that this was third party information as the complainant was not a party to the case, Singh said, “The information is of public interest, as it has been alleged that an individual has fraudulently sold public land. Police have conducted an inquiry and papers related to it are public documents.”
Ludhiana resident Mehar Chand had sought copies of the report of the inquiry conducted by the Economic Offences Wing of the police. The appellant alleged that Sawaranjit Kaur had fraudulently transferred a part of the public street by a registered deed in favour of Harvinder Singh.
Ludhiana SSP (the PIO) and IGP, Zonal-II, Jalandhar (the first appellate authority) were respondents in the case.
Dismissing the police plea that this was third party information as the complainant was not a party to the case, Singh said, “The information is of public interest, as it has been alleged that an individual has fraudulently sold public land. Police have conducted an inquiry and papers related to it are public documents.”
Ludhiana resident Mehar Chand had sought copies of the report of the inquiry conducted by the Economic Offences Wing of the police. The appellant alleged that Sawaranjit Kaur had fraudulently transferred a part of the public street by a registered deed in favour of Harvinder Singh.
Ludhiana SSP (the PIO) and IGP, Zonal-II, Jalandhar (the first appellate authority) were respondents in the case.
Law officer’s views can be disclosed under RTI Act
The full bench of the Punjab State Information Commission on Monday ruled that the legal opinion given by a government law officer to the police cannot be exempted from disclosure under the RTI Act by calling it “assistance” given in confidence for law enforcement.
“What would be the consequences if it is accepted that a police or a legal officer while rendering his assigned duty is merely assisting, in confidence, for law enforcement or security purposes? It would virtually result in placing the entire police force, including the law officers attached with it, out of the purview of the RTI Act because every decision or step taken by police officers could be construed as ‘assistance’ for law enforcement,” the bench said.
The bench gave the ruling while hearing the case of Gurbir Singh, son of former Punjab Chief Minister Justice Gurnam Singh. He had sought copies of all legal opinions given by Amarjot Sidhu, Joint Director, Prosecution and Litigation, Ludhiana, to SSPs of Ludhiana (Urban), Ludhiana (Rural) and Khanna and Ludhiana Range DIG.
“What would be the consequences if it is accepted that a police or a legal officer while rendering his assigned duty is merely assisting, in confidence, for law enforcement or security purposes? It would virtually result in placing the entire police force, including the law officers attached with it, out of the purview of the RTI Act because every decision or step taken by police officers could be construed as ‘assistance’ for law enforcement,” the bench said.
The bench gave the ruling while hearing the case of Gurbir Singh, son of former Punjab Chief Minister Justice Gurnam Singh. He had sought copies of all legal opinions given by Amarjot Sidhu, Joint Director, Prosecution and Litigation, Ludhiana, to SSPs of Ludhiana (Urban), Ludhiana (Rural) and Khanna and Ludhiana Range DIG.
GETTING INFO UNDER RTI IS NOT EASY IN PUNJAB.
HOW FUNNY!!! THE STATE INFORMATION COMMISSION OF PUNJAB IS REFERRING A JUNIOR AUTHORITY AS THE APPELLATE AUTHORITY.
CLEARLY SHOWS HOW IR-RESPONSIBLY THE WORKS ARE DONE EVEN IN THE MOST RESPONSIBLE DEPARTMENTS.
READ THE STORY AND DETAILS BELOW:
Chandigarh, April 14 An advocate here had to wait for about a month in vain for a piece of information he had sought from the Director General of Police in Punjab under the Right to Information Act and finally knocked at the door of the state information commission to get his appeal admitted.
Advocate Sushil Gautam had sought information from the DGP regarding the vehicles owned by the Punjab Police and their insurance. The information was not given to him within the stipulated period of 30 days. Aggrieved, Gautam moved the State Information Commission to file an appeal which was turned down by the Commission. Refusing to admit the appeal, the Commission replied “Being a first appeal under the RTI Act, it may be filed before appropriate first appellate authority” little knowing that the first appellate authority is ADGP (Administration). Taken aback by the reply received from the Commission, Gautam wrote back.
“I had asked for information from the DGP Punjab Police vide application dated September 29, 2007. I did not get any reply, thus appeal was referred before your good self, but astonishingly you have declined to interfere on the ground that Punjab State Information Commission (PSIC) is the second appellate authority and thus appeal has to go to ADGP (Administration) who is the first appellate authority in Punjab Police. Most humbly it is submitted that the information was requisitioned from DGP who is senior to the ADGP. It is not understood as to how ADGP can be the authority to entertain the appeal against the inaction of the DGP” Gautam’s letter said. However, the appeal has been admitted and the case is listed for hearing in the last week of April.
Information sought from the DGP under the RTI Act:
* How many vehicles does Punjab Police have which are registered with the Road Transport Authorities in the name of DGP, Punjab Police ?
* How many vehicles does Punjab Police have which are not registered with Road Transport Authorities?
* The vehicles owned by the Punjab Police, are they exempted from paying the road tax? If yes, under which authority/provision?
* Are the vehicles owned by the Punjab Police and registered in the name of DGP, Punjab Police, insured as required by the Motor Vehicle Act ?
* Are the vehicles owned by the Punjab Police insured? If no, then under which authority and provision of law?
CLEARLY SHOWS HOW IR-RESPONSIBLY THE WORKS ARE DONE EVEN IN THE MOST RESPONSIBLE DEPARTMENTS.
READ THE STORY AND DETAILS BELOW:
Chandigarh, April 14 An advocate here had to wait for about a month in vain for a piece of information he had sought from the Director General of Police in Punjab under the Right to Information Act and finally knocked at the door of the state information commission to get his appeal admitted.
Advocate Sushil Gautam had sought information from the DGP regarding the vehicles owned by the Punjab Police and their insurance. The information was not given to him within the stipulated period of 30 days. Aggrieved, Gautam moved the State Information Commission to file an appeal which was turned down by the Commission. Refusing to admit the appeal, the Commission replied “Being a first appeal under the RTI Act, it may be filed before appropriate first appellate authority” little knowing that the first appellate authority is ADGP (Administration). Taken aback by the reply received from the Commission, Gautam wrote back.
“I had asked for information from the DGP Punjab Police vide application dated September 29, 2007. I did not get any reply, thus appeal was referred before your good self, but astonishingly you have declined to interfere on the ground that Punjab State Information Commission (PSIC) is the second appellate authority and thus appeal has to go to ADGP (Administration) who is the first appellate authority in Punjab Police. Most humbly it is submitted that the information was requisitioned from DGP who is senior to the ADGP. It is not understood as to how ADGP can be the authority to entertain the appeal against the inaction of the DGP” Gautam’s letter said. However, the appeal has been admitted and the case is listed for hearing in the last week of April.
Information sought from the DGP under the RTI Act:
* How many vehicles does Punjab Police have which are registered with the Road Transport Authorities in the name of DGP, Punjab Police ?
* How many vehicles does Punjab Police have which are not registered with Road Transport Authorities?
* The vehicles owned by the Punjab Police, are they exempted from paying the road tax? If yes, under which authority/provision?
* Are the vehicles owned by the Punjab Police and registered in the name of DGP, Punjab Police, insured as required by the Motor Vehicle Act ?
* Are the vehicles owned by the Punjab Police insured? If no, then under which authority and provision of law?
Thursday, May 20, 2010
PITIBLE STATE OF AN INDIAN HUSBAND
Man stabs self to escape police custody in Bangalore
Mid-Day.com, Tuesday May 18, 2010, Bangalore
Suresh Kumar, a 30-year-old accused in dowry harassment case, gave police the
blushes by stabbing himself, getting admitted to the hospital and then escaping
with the help of his relatives right under their nose.
A resident of Mini Bakshi Garden, Kumar was picked up by the Cottonpet police
from Mysore Road on May 12, in a dowry harassment case filed against him by his
wife.
A police team led by Sub-Inspector L Nagraj was escorting Suresh from his house
to the station for questioning, when he picked up an iron rod lying on the
roadside and stabbed himself.
The police rushed him to Victoria Hospital, where he was treated at the
outpatient ward. He was discharged after a few hours and taken into custody
again.
The police were waiting for private transport outside the hospital when Kumar's
mother and sister came and created a ruckus blaming the police for their kin's
condition.
While Nagraj and his men tried to pacify the bawling relatives, the mother and
sister stealthily got Kumar into an autorickshaw on the pretext of enquiring
about his health and then sped away. Efforts to chase the vehicle proved futile.
Nagraj, attached to the Cottonpet police station, filed a complaint with the
Victoria Hospital police.
He immediately informed his seniors and set out on a manhunt for Kumar and his
family, but in vain.
After searching for four days, Nagraj decided to file a formal complaint.
The Victoria Hospital police said that they were looking for Kumar.
"We have deployed plainclothes policemen near his residence to keep a tab on his
family, but none of them who visited Kumar at the hospital is to be seen," a
source from the police said.
http://www.ndtv.com/news/cities/man-stabs-self-to-escape-police-custody-26191.php
Mid-Day.com, Tuesday May 18, 2010, Bangalore
Suresh Kumar, a 30-year-old accused in dowry harassment case, gave police the
blushes by stabbing himself, getting admitted to the hospital and then escaping
with the help of his relatives right under their nose.
A resident of Mini Bakshi Garden, Kumar was picked up by the Cottonpet police
from Mysore Road on May 12, in a dowry harassment case filed against him by his
wife.
A police team led by Sub-Inspector L Nagraj was escorting Suresh from his house
to the station for questioning, when he picked up an iron rod lying on the
roadside and stabbed himself.
The police rushed him to Victoria Hospital, where he was treated at the
outpatient ward. He was discharged after a few hours and taken into custody
again.
The police were waiting for private transport outside the hospital when Kumar's
mother and sister came and created a ruckus blaming the police for their kin's
condition.
While Nagraj and his men tried to pacify the bawling relatives, the mother and
sister stealthily got Kumar into an autorickshaw on the pretext of enquiring
about his health and then sped away. Efforts to chase the vehicle proved futile.
Nagraj, attached to the Cottonpet police station, filed a complaint with the
Victoria Hospital police.
He immediately informed his seniors and set out on a manhunt for Kumar and his
family, but in vain.
After searching for four days, Nagraj decided to file a formal complaint.
The Victoria Hospital police said that they were looking for Kumar.
"We have deployed plainclothes policemen near his residence to keep a tab on his
family, but none of them who visited Kumar at the hospital is to be seen," a
source from the police said.
http://www.ndtv.com/news/cities/man-stabs-self-to-escape-police-custody-26191.php
BIASED ACTIONS UNDER THE BANNER OF LAW
LOOK HOW THE INDIAN POLICE CONCOCTS BIASED STORIES AND LEAVE NO STONE UN-TURNED TO PUNISH THE HUSBAND AND HIS FAMILY.
PATHETICALLY SICK INDIAN INSTITUTE OF MARRIAGE .
Surat woman alleges dowry harassment; case against husband, kin
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MANOJ MORE
Tags : crime, dowry
Posted: Thu May 20 2010, 03:19 hrs
They had made their match through a matrimonial website, but the Internet
marriage had gone wrong for the Pune boy and Surat girl in nearly two years.
While 27-year-old Swati Singh accuses Chetan Agnihotri and his family of
harassing her for dowry, the husband says Swati was using pressure tactics and
false allegations to separate him from his old parents.
Swati, an MBA, has filed an FIR of dowry demand, mental and physical torture
against her husband, his mother, father and sister with the Surat police. A
Surat police team had landed in Pune in February and arrested all of them. They
were released on bail by a Surat court after a day in custody.
Surat police inspector Krishnaben Dabhi said the four were booked for dowry
demand and mental and physical torture. "They were arrested; and released by the
court on bail. We have also filed a chargesheet against them," she said.
Swati is a Rajasthani Rajput and Agnihotri a Maharashtrian Brahmin.
They had been living in Vimannagar area here after their wedding.
Swati said her mental and physical torture had begun right after their week-long
honeymoon. "A week after honeymoon, my mother-in-law started finding faults with
my eating habits. My father-in-law and sister-in-law too joined in. All the
three used to abuse me for bringing what they said was paltry dowry. They used
to repeatedly ask me to bring more dowry from my parents."
Swati's brother Ishant Singh alleged that his family paid Rs 5 lakh in cash to
Chetan's family at the time of wedding. "But the demands never ended. We have
given them a washing machine, LCD and several other electronic appliances. And
now, Chetan is demanding Rs 12 lakh for buying a Honda Civic."
Ishant said his sister used to come home every third month after the wedding.
However, Chetan denies all the allegations. "I earn so much that I don't need
anybody's money. In fact, during our marriage I had told Swati's father that we
should have a registered marriage and not waste money. She was my dream girl.
But now what she had done to my family, it has hurt me and every member of my
family badly. I will not forgive her."
Chetan alleges that Swati is acting at the behest of her mother. "My
mother-in-law is provoking Swati to pressure me into living separately with her.
How can I leave my old parents? They are not in a position to look after
themselves. When a woman makes a complaint, the police immediately acts against
the husband. But, they should first understand the facts. My family has gone
through hell for no fault of ours. Marital disputes should not go to the
police."
http://www.indianexpress.com/news/surat-woman-alleges-dowry-harassment;-case-aga\
inst-husband-kin/621281/0
PATHETICALLY SICK INDIAN INSTITUTE OF MARRIAGE .
Surat woman alleges dowry harassment; case against husband, kin
Post Comment Larger | Smaller
MANOJ MORE
Tags : crime, dowry
Posted: Thu May 20 2010, 03:19 hrs
They had made their match through a matrimonial website, but the Internet
marriage had gone wrong for the Pune boy and Surat girl in nearly two years.
While 27-year-old Swati Singh accuses Chetan Agnihotri and his family of
harassing her for dowry, the husband says Swati was using pressure tactics and
false allegations to separate him from his old parents.
Swati, an MBA, has filed an FIR of dowry demand, mental and physical torture
against her husband, his mother, father and sister with the Surat police. A
Surat police team had landed in Pune in February and arrested all of them. They
were released on bail by a Surat court after a day in custody.
Surat police inspector Krishnaben Dabhi said the four were booked for dowry
demand and mental and physical torture. "They were arrested; and released by the
court on bail. We have also filed a chargesheet against them," she said.
Swati is a Rajasthani Rajput and Agnihotri a Maharashtrian Brahmin.
They had been living in Vimannagar area here after their wedding.
Swati said her mental and physical torture had begun right after their week-long
honeymoon. "A week after honeymoon, my mother-in-law started finding faults with
my eating habits. My father-in-law and sister-in-law too joined in. All the
three used to abuse me for bringing what they said was paltry dowry. They used
to repeatedly ask me to bring more dowry from my parents."
Swati's brother Ishant Singh alleged that his family paid Rs 5 lakh in cash to
Chetan's family at the time of wedding. "But the demands never ended. We have
given them a washing machine, LCD and several other electronic appliances. And
now, Chetan is demanding Rs 12 lakh for buying a Honda Civic."
Ishant said his sister used to come home every third month after the wedding.
However, Chetan denies all the allegations. "I earn so much that I don't need
anybody's money. In fact, during our marriage I had told Swati's father that we
should have a registered marriage and not waste money. She was my dream girl.
But now what she had done to my family, it has hurt me and every member of my
family badly. I will not forgive her."
Chetan alleges that Swati is acting at the behest of her mother. "My
mother-in-law is provoking Swati to pressure me into living separately with her.
How can I leave my old parents? They are not in a position to look after
themselves. When a woman makes a complaint, the police immediately acts against
the husband. But, they should first understand the facts. My family has gone
through hell for no fault of ours. Marital disputes should not go to the
police."
http://www.indianexpress.com/news/surat-woman-alleges-dowry-harassment;-case-aga\
inst-husband-kin/621281/0
Abla Indian Bahu - Look at the real face
Woman gets life for killing mother-in-law
TNN, May 19, 2010, 03.38am IST
CHENNAI: A mahila court on Monday awarded life sentence to a woman for murdering
her mother-in-law, who suspected her of infidelity.
According to the police, Shantha Bai was found dead in her Triplicane residence
on May 31, 2007. She had reportedly been stabbed in 79 places on her body. The
police, who recovered the body, found that Shantha Bai and her daughter-in-law
Lakshmi often quarrelled.
The police then questioned Lakshmi who confessed to having committed the murder.
A kitchen knife, allegedly used by Lakshmi to kill her mother-in-law, was
recovered and she was arrested and remanded in judicial custody. Lakshmi told
the police during interrogation that her mother-in-law suspected her of
infidelity and often fought with her over small issues. After one such fight on
May 31, 2007, Lakshmi said, she beat up Shantha Bai, pushed her into the store
room, took a kitchen knife and stabbed her all over the body.
The police filed a chargesheet in the mahila court located on the High Court
campus. Judge Mohammad Jabarullahkhan on Monday sentenced Lakshmi to life and
imposed a fine of Rs 10,000. She was then remanded in the women's prison in
Puzhal.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chennai/Woman-gets-life-for-killing-moth\
er-in-law/articleshow/5947070.cms
TNN, May 19, 2010, 03.38am IST
CHENNAI: A mahila court on Monday awarded life sentence to a woman for murdering
her mother-in-law, who suspected her of infidelity.
According to the police, Shantha Bai was found dead in her Triplicane residence
on May 31, 2007. She had reportedly been stabbed in 79 places on her body. The
police, who recovered the body, found that Shantha Bai and her daughter-in-law
Lakshmi often quarrelled.
The police then questioned Lakshmi who confessed to having committed the murder.
A kitchen knife, allegedly used by Lakshmi to kill her mother-in-law, was
recovered and she was arrested and remanded in judicial custody. Lakshmi told
the police during interrogation that her mother-in-law suspected her of
infidelity and often fought with her over small issues. After one such fight on
May 31, 2007, Lakshmi said, she beat up Shantha Bai, pushed her into the store
room, took a kitchen knife and stabbed her all over the body.
The police filed a chargesheet in the mahila court located on the High Court
campus. Judge Mohammad Jabarullahkhan on Monday sentenced Lakshmi to life and
imposed a fine of Rs 10,000. She was then remanded in the women's prison in
Puzhal.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chennai/Woman-gets-life-for-killing-moth\
er-in-law/articleshow/5947070.cms
http://legalfighter.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/witness-mag-katti.pdf
http://legalfighter.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/witness-mag-katti.pdf
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Perpetrators of Elder Abuse in India – Daugther-in-law empowered by Indian Government?
Elder Abuse is not a crime committed by strangers. It is harm done to an older person by a relative, friend, or anyone the elder depends on for basic needs. The HOME is the main locale where elder spends his/her most of time and HOME icons a peaceful, caring and loving family. If the family is kept intact with care & blessings of elders, peace & love of young ones and fun & play of children, Elder Abuse can be eradicated totally from society.
In India, being primarily the follower of Hinduism, respect of the elderly because they are the parents of the present generation was a major concept in society. India was able to elude itself from the problem of elder abuse mainly because of it’s well defined and ethically regulated strong family system & value based marriage system but misconceived concept of women empowerment of Government of India has changed the things drastically in recent past and Elder Abuse has taken up upright rising trend.
Besides, other factors like poverty, urbanization, lifestyle changes, industrialization etc., the main factor contributing in this rise is the Government’s apathy towards this social problem. The Government instead of framing policies or legislations for protection of rights of elders in family has played a role of catalyst in promoting Elder Abuse by enacting and enforcing various gender biased matrimonial laws which are casting heavy toll on basic root of Indian society i.e. traditional Indian family system and is resulting in breaking of families. The breakup of family system and growing materialism have eroded the cultural values of the Indians. These matrimonial laws like IPC 498a, domestic violence Act,2005, CrPC125 etc. which favours (both in spirit & enforcement) and are enacted for only a particular gender/party i.e wife, has opened a vicious channel of Elder aAbuse at HOME as the vulnerable aged are the most likely to be abused.
In today’s India, where woman/girls are viewed equally in every aspect of life and are enjoying special equality with men besides the greed for easy money making, almost none of the newly wed wife wants to settle in a joint family or even with parents of her husband and feels restricted & watched of her independence so it can not be expected of her to carry the caring attitude for elders in family . The parents of bride being well aware of the upbringing of their daughter knows her incapability of discharging her matrimonial obligations also vitiates her mind and feedback her to abandon her in-laws and live independent life with full & sole right on her husband’s earnings. On an irrational & ironical justification or reasoning that “ even she has abandoned her parent’s house to marry him” , she insists on living separate so that nobody would even raise an eyebrow to her misdeeds and her incapability. In this process, the husband is made to realize that he is left with only two options with him either to “(i) abandon or neglect his parents and relatives” or to
Here comes the role of gender biased laws passed by our great visionary Government to empower the women…………………… wife, knowing fully that legal system & mechanism is in her favor and she can dictate her terms forcefully, she in order to fulfill this ulterior motive lashes physical, economical, verbal, mental, & pschycological abuse on husband & elder in-laws in their own home with the help & support from her paternal family and dreams about the day when her husband abandons his old age parents & succumb to her unscrupulous demands.
“(ii) face alongwith his old age parents, the ordeal of gender biased judicial system of India” on false & frivolous wild allegations and complaints from wife and her family. So husband gets into hot soup where Elder abuse is inevitable for him on any account(option-1 or 2).
In both the above situations, worst sufferers are the innocent in-laws “THE ELDERS” who in their old age either get abandoned or neglected by their son & DIL in their own home OR are dragged in courts on false charges by their Daughter-in-law where they are subjected to threatening, maltreatment and harassment by branding them as criminals. They are abused on account of their dignity, respect, health, finance & mental stability and are forced to live remaining days of their life in social stigma of criminal.
The possibility of easy misuse of these gender biased laws has lured the Daughter-in-law of today’s India so much that the Courts of India are piling up with the false matrimonial cases and the high rise in elderly abuse in the society is going on unnoticed.
Message on “ World Elder Abuse Awareness Day”, 15th June,2010.
A sincere appeal to Indian Government that if it cannot protect elders in country from abuse atleast It should not promote and propagate it with enacting & enforcing gender biased family breaking laws in India.
In India, being primarily the follower of Hinduism, respect of the elderly because they are the parents of the present generation was a major concept in society. India was able to elude itself from the problem of elder abuse mainly because of it’s well defined and ethically regulated strong family system & value based marriage system but misconceived concept of women empowerment of Government of India has changed the things drastically in recent past and Elder Abuse has taken up upright rising trend.
Besides, other factors like poverty, urbanization, lifestyle changes, industrialization etc., the main factor contributing in this rise is the Government’s apathy towards this social problem. The Government instead of framing policies or legislations for protection of rights of elders in family has played a role of catalyst in promoting Elder Abuse by enacting and enforcing various gender biased matrimonial laws which are casting heavy toll on basic root of Indian society i.e. traditional Indian family system and is resulting in breaking of families. The breakup of family system and growing materialism have eroded the cultural values of the Indians. These matrimonial laws like IPC 498a, domestic violence Act,2005, CrPC125 etc. which favours (both in spirit & enforcement) and are enacted for only a particular gender/party i.e wife, has opened a vicious channel of Elder aAbuse at HOME as the vulnerable aged are the most likely to be abused.
In today’s India, where woman/girls are viewed equally in every aspect of life and are enjoying special equality with men besides the greed for easy money making, almost none of the newly wed wife wants to settle in a joint family or even with parents of her husband and feels restricted & watched of her independence so it can not be expected of her to carry the caring attitude for elders in family . The parents of bride being well aware of the upbringing of their daughter knows her incapability of discharging her matrimonial obligations also vitiates her mind and feedback her to abandon her in-laws and live independent life with full & sole right on her husband’s earnings. On an irrational & ironical justification or reasoning that “ even she has abandoned her parent’s house to marry him” , she insists on living separate so that nobody would even raise an eyebrow to her misdeeds and her incapability. In this process, the husband is made to realize that he is left with only two options with him either to “(i) abandon or neglect his parents and relatives” or to
Here comes the role of gender biased laws passed by our great visionary Government to empower the women…………………… wife, knowing fully that legal system & mechanism is in her favor and she can dictate her terms forcefully, she in order to fulfill this ulterior motive lashes physical, economical, verbal, mental, & pschycological abuse on husband & elder in-laws in their own home with the help & support from her paternal family and dreams about the day when her husband abandons his old age parents & succumb to her unscrupulous demands.
“(ii) face alongwith his old age parents, the ordeal of gender biased judicial system of India” on false & frivolous wild allegations and complaints from wife and her family. So husband gets into hot soup where Elder abuse is inevitable for him on any account(option-1 or 2).
In both the above situations, worst sufferers are the innocent in-laws “THE ELDERS” who in their old age either get abandoned or neglected by their son & DIL in their own home OR are dragged in courts on false charges by their Daughter-in-law where they are subjected to threatening, maltreatment and harassment by branding them as criminals. They are abused on account of their dignity, respect, health, finance & mental stability and are forced to live remaining days of their life in social stigma of criminal.
The possibility of easy misuse of these gender biased laws has lured the Daughter-in-law of today’s India so much that the Courts of India are piling up with the false matrimonial cases and the high rise in elderly abuse in the society is going on unnoticed.
Message on “ World Elder Abuse Awareness Day”, 15th June,2010.
A sincere appeal to Indian Government that if it cannot protect elders in country from abuse atleast It should not promote and propagate it with enacting & enforcing gender biased family breaking laws in India.
MARITAL LAWS - FAMILY BREAKING AND MONEY MAKING INDUSTRY
The above quotation may sound ambiguous and paradoxical to the
reader in its initial stage, but a deeper thought into it, contemplation and a
thorough study about it might prove the truth of it. The society is totally
unaware of the real facts behind the so called "The Protective Wife-Centric
Laws". They have become, "Destructive" laws" for the husband, his family, the
Indian society and mankind as a whole.
The statistics given below proves this fact.
1. 70,000 marital cases per year.
2. Average alimony of Rs. 20 Lacs.
3. Rs. 14, 000 crores business shared by the police, the lawyers and the judges.
Why will the Government, the Home – Ministry and the Law-Makers make amendments
in this money – making illustrious industry which flourishes well with a lavish
income to all government departments? It reduces the load of the government
exchequer as well as it does not require the government to bother about the pay
of its employees in various departments as each one is getting more than the
actual salary by these "other sources of income" which is seldom questioned by
any authorities. Cases of poor people are seldom registered as no income is made
in such cases. The police and the lawyers like to take cases of the well-to do
and affluent families from where money can be extorted regularly. One may just
visit a court and he finds the lawyers asking for any case. It may be noted here
that the Karnataka Home Ministry has declared that "Section 498A is working
well". Ironically it is working well for all the corrupted departments of the
government as they are minting money from this whopping industry of corruption
and mal-practices.
Average no. of cases filed against a husband.
1. 498A.
2. Domestic Violence Act.
3. 125 CrPC, maintenance case, including other cases from where the wife
takes maintenance simultaneously.
4. Child-Custody.
5. Divorce.
All these cases can be filed by the wife in courts in the same city or different
cities to harass the husband and his family. Any marital dispute when taken to
the police station by the disgruntled wife either to gain personal scores or to
revenge the in-laws becomes a source of income for the police. For a few
thousand rupees a false case is registered without any proper documents or any
investigation only on a verbal complaint from a wife or a daughter-in-law
(DIL).without any proofs or evidences. The husband and his family are not
allowed to speak up a word in their defense and the whole family (husband,
father, mother, brother, sister, the aged parents and the children) are put
behind bars.
Then comes "Bail" part where the lawyers and the judiciary play a meaty role.
The lawyers extort a huge amount from the distraught husband and his family on
the pretext of getting bail orders from the judiciary where the proceedings go
on without any "transparency".
The ordeal of the innocent husband and his family does not end here .It is just
the beginning. One after another cases are filed against him and his family. He
is burdened with not only the tension of running his family but also bear the
fees of the various cases and the lawyers, the maintenance orders passed by the
court to the disgruntled wife and even the expenses of travels if the cases are
filed in other cities which is generally done by wives to harass him further.
The "Fear Factor" plays a vital role in the whole horrific drama. The police
terrorise the innocent family of husband with dire consequences and extort
money. The lawyers go a step further by consoling the distort family that he is
the "Savior" and they should rely on him totally. Thus he too cuffs up a huge
amount as fees from the husband and drags the case.
Then comes the role of the judiciary. Even though at the initial stage when it
is evident that it is a false and "open and shut" case the judges give date
after date and harass the husband and family for years. The innocent husband is
advised to make settlements in the form of monetary compensation to the
adulterous wife. The whole system including the police, the lawyers, and the
judiciary act as "Brokers" and are the "Benefactors" in this money-making
industry which is termed as "Protective Marital laws" by the law makers.
The NCW chair-person Dr. Girija Vyas has taken up the cause of the honor killing
of Nirupama Pathak of Jharkhand who is supposedly killed by her own family. This
case would have covertly been transferred into a "Dowry death", had it been in
the in-laws home. Would Dr Girija Vyas then stand up for the women in the
husband's family (mothers and sisters)? May be not, as they have no place in the
women's ministry.
Although the government is aware of the random "misuse" of the laws like
Section 498A, Domestic Violence, Maintenance laws, Child custody and Divorce but
is reluctant to make any changes in these laws which are so "profitable" for
the whole system.
Approximately 48% of the cases filed in the courts are of "Marital disputes".
Hence no one wants to lose the share of booty from this money-making industry.
The tax-paying husband and his family become total "bakras" at the behest of
this whole system whose salaries are paid from the tax given by the hard-earned
money of these innocent husbands
The recent case of Mohammed Ajmal Aamir Kasav is an example of the speedy
disposal of such a severe case of which the judiciary should take a lesson. It
is disgusting that the judges take years to decide "petty marital cases".
The demand of the present day is to bring "Transparency" in the court
proceedings and to grant "Justice" to the innocent husband and his family.
Marital disputes should not go to the police stations but to family courts and
marriage counselors who are properly trained in these matters. These disputes
should be settled in a limited "time frame" and not dragged unnecessarily for
years. Punishments for filing false cases should be severe and in accordance
with law so as to check the misuse. Compensation should be granted to the
aggrieved and harassed family of the husband if the case proves to be false.
The Family Breaking Laws
The laws meant for the protection of women (read wife) are formulated on the
recommendations of the Feminists, the NCW and WCD Ministry which are one-sided,
biased and detrimental to family life. Since these laws have many loopholes they
are "misused" by young women to harass the in-laws. Once a family matter goes to
police-stations and courts, there is no scope of reconciliation which ultimately
results in breaking of families. Does the Indian Government want a
"Family-less-society" like the US for the future generations?
The Responsibility of the Media
The media being a very powerful means of reaching to the masses should bear
certain responsibilities. Why do the media try to increase the TRP by showing
one-sided stories of women being harassed by the in-laws? The media should
refrain from using derogatory and resentful language for the husbands and
in-laws. The current misuse of laws by wives and daughter-in-law is known to
every one, why the media does not take up the responsibility of high-lighting
these issues which can also prove to be an effective method to increase the TRP
too which is the hot current issue these days?
Hence there should be no further delay by any government system as well as media
to bring the "Wanted Change" in the society. Or else the police may rather
arrest the husband and his family and put them behind bars as no investigation
is done nor evidences considered either by the police or the courts, only the
verbal complaints made by the woman and her relatives is considered as the
"gospel truth". Let the government start a "Jail Bharo Andolan" where the
husband and his family can spend their life at the expense of the state
treasury, as the famous saying "Justice delayed is justice denied" is very true
for the victimized and innocent husband and his family.
http://www.theindiapost.com/2010/05/16/marital-laws-family-breaking-or-money-%E2%80%93-making-industry/
reader in its initial stage, but a deeper thought into it, contemplation and a
thorough study about it might prove the truth of it. The society is totally
unaware of the real facts behind the so called "The Protective Wife-Centric
Laws". They have become, "Destructive" laws" for the husband, his family, the
Indian society and mankind as a whole.
The statistics given below proves this fact.
1. 70,000 marital cases per year.
2. Average alimony of Rs. 20 Lacs.
3. Rs. 14, 000 crores business shared by the police, the lawyers and the judges.
Why will the Government, the Home – Ministry and the Law-Makers make amendments
in this money – making illustrious industry which flourishes well with a lavish
income to all government departments? It reduces the load of the government
exchequer as well as it does not require the government to bother about the pay
of its employees in various departments as each one is getting more than the
actual salary by these "other sources of income" which is seldom questioned by
any authorities. Cases of poor people are seldom registered as no income is made
in such cases. The police and the lawyers like to take cases of the well-to do
and affluent families from where money can be extorted regularly. One may just
visit a court and he finds the lawyers asking for any case. It may be noted here
that the Karnataka Home Ministry has declared that "Section 498A is working
well". Ironically it is working well for all the corrupted departments of the
government as they are minting money from this whopping industry of corruption
and mal-practices.
Average no. of cases filed against a husband.
1. 498A.
2. Domestic Violence Act.
3. 125 CrPC, maintenance case, including other cases from where the wife
takes maintenance simultaneously.
4. Child-Custody.
5. Divorce.
All these cases can be filed by the wife in courts in the same city or different
cities to harass the husband and his family. Any marital dispute when taken to
the police station by the disgruntled wife either to gain personal scores or to
revenge the in-laws becomes a source of income for the police. For a few
thousand rupees a false case is registered without any proper documents or any
investigation only on a verbal complaint from a wife or a daughter-in-law
(DIL).without any proofs or evidences. The husband and his family are not
allowed to speak up a word in their defense and the whole family (husband,
father, mother, brother, sister, the aged parents and the children) are put
behind bars.
Then comes "Bail" part where the lawyers and the judiciary play a meaty role.
The lawyers extort a huge amount from the distraught husband and his family on
the pretext of getting bail orders from the judiciary where the proceedings go
on without any "transparency".
The ordeal of the innocent husband and his family does not end here .It is just
the beginning. One after another cases are filed against him and his family. He
is burdened with not only the tension of running his family but also bear the
fees of the various cases and the lawyers, the maintenance orders passed by the
court to the disgruntled wife and even the expenses of travels if the cases are
filed in other cities which is generally done by wives to harass him further.
The "Fear Factor" plays a vital role in the whole horrific drama. The police
terrorise the innocent family of husband with dire consequences and extort
money. The lawyers go a step further by consoling the distort family that he is
the "Savior" and they should rely on him totally. Thus he too cuffs up a huge
amount as fees from the husband and drags the case.
Then comes the role of the judiciary. Even though at the initial stage when it
is evident that it is a false and "open and shut" case the judges give date
after date and harass the husband and family for years. The innocent husband is
advised to make settlements in the form of monetary compensation to the
adulterous wife. The whole system including the police, the lawyers, and the
judiciary act as "Brokers" and are the "Benefactors" in this money-making
industry which is termed as "Protective Marital laws" by the law makers.
The NCW chair-person Dr. Girija Vyas has taken up the cause of the honor killing
of Nirupama Pathak of Jharkhand who is supposedly killed by her own family. This
case would have covertly been transferred into a "Dowry death", had it been in
the in-laws home. Would Dr Girija Vyas then stand up for the women in the
husband's family (mothers and sisters)? May be not, as they have no place in the
women's ministry.
Although the government is aware of the random "misuse" of the laws like
Section 498A, Domestic Violence, Maintenance laws, Child custody and Divorce but
is reluctant to make any changes in these laws which are so "profitable" for
the whole system.
Approximately 48% of the cases filed in the courts are of "Marital disputes".
Hence no one wants to lose the share of booty from this money-making industry.
The tax-paying husband and his family become total "bakras" at the behest of
this whole system whose salaries are paid from the tax given by the hard-earned
money of these innocent husbands
The recent case of Mohammed Ajmal Aamir Kasav is an example of the speedy
disposal of such a severe case of which the judiciary should take a lesson. It
is disgusting that the judges take years to decide "petty marital cases".
The demand of the present day is to bring "Transparency" in the court
proceedings and to grant "Justice" to the innocent husband and his family.
Marital disputes should not go to the police stations but to family courts and
marriage counselors who are properly trained in these matters. These disputes
should be settled in a limited "time frame" and not dragged unnecessarily for
years. Punishments for filing false cases should be severe and in accordance
with law so as to check the misuse. Compensation should be granted to the
aggrieved and harassed family of the husband if the case proves to be false.
The Family Breaking Laws
The laws meant for the protection of women (read wife) are formulated on the
recommendations of the Feminists, the NCW and WCD Ministry which are one-sided,
biased and detrimental to family life. Since these laws have many loopholes they
are "misused" by young women to harass the in-laws. Once a family matter goes to
police-stations and courts, there is no scope of reconciliation which ultimately
results in breaking of families. Does the Indian Government want a
"Family-less-society" like the US for the future generations?
The Responsibility of the Media
The media being a very powerful means of reaching to the masses should bear
certain responsibilities. Why do the media try to increase the TRP by showing
one-sided stories of women being harassed by the in-laws? The media should
refrain from using derogatory and resentful language for the husbands and
in-laws. The current misuse of laws by wives and daughter-in-law is known to
every one, why the media does not take up the responsibility of high-lighting
these issues which can also prove to be an effective method to increase the TRP
too which is the hot current issue these days?
Hence there should be no further delay by any government system as well as media
to bring the "Wanted Change" in the society. Or else the police may rather
arrest the husband and his family and put them behind bars as no investigation
is done nor evidences considered either by the police or the courts, only the
verbal complaints made by the woman and her relatives is considered as the
"gospel truth". Let the government start a "Jail Bharo Andolan" where the
husband and his family can spend their life at the expense of the state
treasury, as the famous saying "Justice delayed is justice denied" is very true
for the victimized and innocent husband and his family.
http://www.theindiapost.com/2010/05/16/marital-laws-family-breaking-or-money-%E2%80%93-making-industry/
THE REAL FACE OF INDIAN DAUGHTER-IN-LAWS
चेन्नै ।।
महिला अदालत ने बांझ बताए जाने पर अपनी सास की हत्या कर देने वाली एक महिला को उम्र कैद की सजा सुनाई है
। अदालत ने सोमवार को यह फैसला दिया।
पुलिस के मुताबिक शांताबाई 31 मई 2007 को अपने ट्रिप्लीकेन आवास में मृत पाई गई थी। कथित तौर पर उसके शरीर पर 79 जगह चाकू से वार किए गए थे। पुलिस को पता चला कि शांता बाई और उनकी बहू लक्ष्मी में अनबन रहा करती थी। दोनों अक्सर झगड़ते थे।
इस सूचना के आधार पर पुलिस ने लक्ष्मी से पूछताछ की तो लक्ष्मी ने हत्या की बात कबूल ली। पूछताछ में उसने बताया कि शांताबाई उस पर बांझपन का संदेह जताती थी और छोटी-छोटी बातों पर उससे झगड़ती थी। ऐसे ही एक झगड़े के दौरान जब शांताबाई ने उसे बांझ कहा तो उसने शांताबाई को पीटा, स्टोर रूम में धकेल दिया और किचेन के चाकू से उसके पूरे शरीर को गोद डाला। पुलिस ने वह चाकू भी बरामद कर लिया।
मामले से जुडे साक्ष्यों पर विचार करने के बाद अदालत ने लक्ष्मी को आजीवन कैद और 10,000 रुपए जुर्माने की सजा सुनाई।
महिला अदालत ने बांझ बताए जाने पर अपनी सास की हत्या कर देने वाली एक महिला को उम्र कैद की सजा सुनाई है
। अदालत ने सोमवार को यह फैसला दिया।
पुलिस के मुताबिक शांताबाई 31 मई 2007 को अपने ट्रिप्लीकेन आवास में मृत पाई गई थी। कथित तौर पर उसके शरीर पर 79 जगह चाकू से वार किए गए थे। पुलिस को पता चला कि शांता बाई और उनकी बहू लक्ष्मी में अनबन रहा करती थी। दोनों अक्सर झगड़ते थे।
इस सूचना के आधार पर पुलिस ने लक्ष्मी से पूछताछ की तो लक्ष्मी ने हत्या की बात कबूल ली। पूछताछ में उसने बताया कि शांताबाई उस पर बांझपन का संदेह जताती थी और छोटी-छोटी बातों पर उससे झगड़ती थी। ऐसे ही एक झगड़े के दौरान जब शांताबाई ने उसे बांझ कहा तो उसने शांताबाई को पीटा, स्टोर रूम में धकेल दिया और किचेन के चाकू से उसके पूरे शरीर को गोद डाला। पुलिस ने वह चाकू भी बरामद कर लिया।
मामले से जुडे साक्ष्यों पर विचार करने के बाद अदालत ने लक्ष्मी को आजीवन कैद और 10,000 रुपए जुर्माने की सजा सुनाई।
WCD-receipe of DACOITY CHILD KIDNAPPING FRAUD CHEATING garnished with FALSE
This is a consolidated news report from star news and delhi aajtak on 18 may
2010.
The BAHU (DIL ) drugged SAAS ( mother in law ) with a substance mixed in a
glass of mango shake and ranscaked the house of her inlaws to abscond with
jewellary/cash worth 51 lacs and the child. She had also cheated other
relatives of her husband who got into the traps of her confident web of
lies and sympathy gaining tactics. She had hatched this conspiracy with her
own parents and siblings as accomplices.
The climax of the story would be predictably routine. Quintessentially even
if Delhi police manages to nab this typical indian Bahu and her gang she
will dole out a generic sobby dowry harassment script embellished with
crocodile tears claiming all that she stole and fraudently cheated as her
ISTRIDHAN and our great indian police shall be too happy and quick to file a
IPC 498a case and put the true victims (MIL and husband's relatives ) behind
the bars.
WILL THE INLAWS EVER GET THE FIRST MOVER ADVANTAGE ???
see the youtubed video report
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
part 1/2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrumVhiQ9so
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
part 2/2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JV9Ypz6PNUM
2010.
The BAHU (DIL ) drugged SAAS ( mother in law ) with a substance mixed in a
glass of mango shake and ranscaked the house of her inlaws to abscond with
jewellary/cash worth 51 lacs and the child. She had also cheated other
relatives of her husband who got into the traps of her confident web of
lies and sympathy gaining tactics. She had hatched this conspiracy with her
own parents and siblings as accomplices.
The climax of the story would be predictably routine. Quintessentially even
if Delhi police manages to nab this typical indian Bahu and her gang she
will dole out a generic sobby dowry harassment script embellished with
crocodile tears claiming all that she stole and fraudently cheated as her
ISTRIDHAN and our great indian police shall be too happy and quick to file a
IPC 498a case and put the true victims (MIL and husband's relatives ) behind
the bars.
WILL THE INLAWS EVER GET THE FIRST MOVER ADVANTAGE ???
see the youtubed video report
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
part 1/2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrumVhiQ9so
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
part 2/2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JV9Ypz6PNUM
How Abusive Women Brainwash You
How do so many smart men fall for toxic, abusive women? Why do they remain in painfully self-destructive relationships when their higher intelligence knows better? Many men frequently cite, “but I love her.” Do they love these women or have they been brainwashed by abusive personalities? Are they confusing love with dependence on their partner/torturer—a kind of Stockholm Syndrome?
Emotional and physical abuse wears you down over time. It erodes your confidence, independence, sense of efficacy and good judgment. Successful abusers use brainwashing tactics to disassemble your personality and extinguish your natural responses to abuse. In other words, you become numb and submissive instead of fleeing or fighting back in the face of her abuse.
Abusive women establish control over their targets by using “brainwashing tactics similar to those used on prisoners of war, hostages, or members of a cult” (Mega, Mega, Mega & Harris, 2000). Most abusers instinctively know these behaviors. Their behavior is mostly unconscious; they’re natural predators. However, some abusive women know exactly what they’re doing. In such cases, I’d argue that they’re sociopaths and not the garden variety narcissist, borderline and/or histrionic.
Brainwashing Techniques
In the 1950s, psychologist Robert Jay Lifton studied POW’s from the Korean War and Chinese prison camps. He concluded that these soldiers “underwent a multi-step process that began with attacks on the prisoner’s sense of self and ended with what appeared to be a change in beliefs” (Layton). Lifton defined 10 brainwashing steps that occur in 3 stages.
Stage I: Breaking Down the Self
1. Assault on Identity. “You are not who you think you are.” This step is comprised of an unrelenting attack on your identity or ego. For example, You’re a jerk. You’re a loser. You’re selfish. You don’t deserve me. You don’t have any friends. Your family doesn’t care about you. You don’t make enough money. These kinds of attacks have a destabilizing effect that breaks your stride and keeps you off kilter. The assault continues until you become “exhausted, confused and disoriented,” which causes your sense of self, beliefs and values to weaken.
2. Guilt.
“You are bad.” Once your identity crisis sets in, you’re then criticized for offenses great, small and imaginary. You snore. You chew your food to loudly. You’re not sensitive enough. You’re too sensitive. You breath wrong. You blink too much. You don’t fold the towels correctly. You never do this. You always do that. Why can’t you be more like so and so? The constant arguments and criticisms that cast you as the bad guy make you believe you deserve to be punished and treated badly. You feel a general sense of shame, that you’re wrong and that everything you do, don’t do, say or don’t say is wrong.
Humiliation and shaming tactics destroy your confidence and make you feel bad about yourself, which puts you in a malleable and submissive state. Shame is a form of paralysis. Inducing a sense of shame doesn’t just make you feel bad; it make you believe that you are bad.
3. Self-Betrayal.
“Agree with me that you are bad.” Because you’re now disoriented and feeling a pervasive sense of guilt and shame, she can manipulate you into going against your own best interests. You forsake your own needs and make choices that are detrimental to your well-being. This is the time when an abusive spouse or girlfriend will begin to isolate you and/or get you to turn against your friends and family. The betrayal of yourself, your beliefs and the people you once felt loyal to increases your feelings of shame, guilt and loss and also makes you easier to control.
4. Breaking Point.
“Who am I, where am I and what am I supposed to do?” You no longer know who you are. You’re confused and disoriented from gaslighting and constantly being fed a distorted version of yourself and reality. You may feel like you’re having a nervous breakdown or feel depressed, anxious, traumatized and a host of other negative emotional and physical symptoms like insomnia, paranoia and digestive problems.
You question your judgment, perceptions and sense of reality. She tells you she loves you yet continues to treat you horribly. You believe she loves you and that you must be a colossal jerk for her to always be so upset. If she’s successfully isolated you or gotten you to isolate yourself, you can’t reality test her version of events or receive outside support. By this time, she’s made you totally dependent upon her and solely focused upon pleasing her, gaining her approval and avoiding her wrath or disapproval. You probably feel completely alone. Alternatively, if you’re still in contact with friends and family, you fear that if you tell them what’s going on that they wouldn’t believe you or wouldn’t understand.
Stage II: The Possibility of Salvation
5. Leniency.
“I can help you.” This is what I like to call the tyranny of small mercies. Periodically, this kind of woman will offer you some small kindness or you’ll have a “fun” afternoon together in which she appears normal. Because your perception has been so warped, the tiniest act of kindness or absence of overt hostility and/or icy withdrawal fosters gratitude, relief and a sense of adoration within you. In reality, she’s not kind and she’s not normal.
The disparity between her bad behavior and good/neutral behavior is so great that the simple act of heating up a can of soup for you makes her seem like Lady Benevolence. Her minuscule and infrequent acts of normalcy cause you to romanticize her. “This is why I love her. She can be so sweet.” It also causes you to experience a destructive sense of false hope. “If only she could be this way all the time. Maybe she will if I just try harder to please her.” The only way you can please this kind of woman is by continuing to allow her to harm you.
6. Compulsion to Confess.
“You can help yourself.” You’re so grateful for the small kindnesses she bestows in between periods of covert and overt abuse that you agree with her criticisms and devaluations. For example, you agree that your friends are bad for you and that your family is controlling and dysfunctional (um, hello, pot meet kettle). You promise to be more attentive and sensitive to her needs and see your needs as evidence of your selfishness.
Alternatively, you agree with her just to make the rages, derision and accusations stop. By the way, this is why torture techniques don’t work for intelligence purposes. People will say anything to make the torture stop. By this time, your personality has changed. You’re hypervigilant to her moods, ego gratification demands and wishes.
You’re overwhelmed and confused by her accusations and criticisms. Subsequently, you feel a pervasive sense of shame. However, you’re so disoriented that you don’t know what you’re guilty of anymore. You just feel wrong.
The Goal: Pointless Control with No End to the Abuse
Individuals or groups who use brainwashing techniques are deliberately trying to convert followers, change political allegiance or get people to buy their brand of soda. The ultimate goal is to breakdown your identity and replace your belief system with their doctrines in order to make you an obedient follower. Once they achieve their aims, the psychological torture stops because you’ve become a faithful acolyte.
Unlike professional terrorists, cult leaders and prison camp commandants, abusive narcissistic, borderline, histrionic and sociopathic wives and girlfriends don’t have an end goal for their brainwashing techniques. They don’t know what they want. They just know that they want to control you in order to feel in control of themselves. This is why they don’t progress past the sixth brainwashing step and complete the process through the third stage, Rebuilding the Self.
By keeping you stuck in the Possibility of Salvation stage, you become locked into perpetual hoop jumping mode. She says if you do x, y and z she’ll finally be happy. You do x, y and z and then she either has a new set of expectations, demands and requirements or tells you that you didn’t do x, y and z to her satisfaction or that you only did it to make her happy not because you wanted to do it. You’re caught in a maddening cycle of trying to please her and not being able to please her with no relief or “salvation” in sight.
Abusive borderline, narcissistic and histrionic women’s moods, beliefs and realities change from day to day and, in extreme cases, minute to minute. They want whatever their current mood or insecurity dictates and change their beliefs, demands and perceptions accordingly. The only doctrine they offer is, “You’re wrong and bad” and “It’s all about me, my needs and my feelings” and “you need to fight for me” or “you need to fight for this relationship” (never mind that she is the one who is destroying it). This keeps you destabilized and in a perpetual state of guilt, shame, hypervigilance and confusion.
She puts you into no win situations, double binds and keeps raising the bar of her expectations for as long as you let her. You never get to reach the third stage of a new identity that brings some relief. She keeps you stuck in the cycle of abuse where she will psychologically torture you until there’s nothing left of you.
Next week, I will discuss other aspects and techniques of brainwashing and how you can deprogram yourself.
by Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
Emotional and physical abuse wears you down over time. It erodes your confidence, independence, sense of efficacy and good judgment. Successful abusers use brainwashing tactics to disassemble your personality and extinguish your natural responses to abuse. In other words, you become numb and submissive instead of fleeing or fighting back in the face of her abuse.
Abusive women establish control over their targets by using “brainwashing tactics similar to those used on prisoners of war, hostages, or members of a cult” (Mega, Mega, Mega & Harris, 2000). Most abusers instinctively know these behaviors. Their behavior is mostly unconscious; they’re natural predators. However, some abusive women know exactly what they’re doing. In such cases, I’d argue that they’re sociopaths and not the garden variety narcissist, borderline and/or histrionic.
Brainwashing Techniques
In the 1950s, psychologist Robert Jay Lifton studied POW’s from the Korean War and Chinese prison camps. He concluded that these soldiers “underwent a multi-step process that began with attacks on the prisoner’s sense of self and ended with what appeared to be a change in beliefs” (Layton). Lifton defined 10 brainwashing steps that occur in 3 stages.
Stage I: Breaking Down the Self
1. Assault on Identity. “You are not who you think you are.” This step is comprised of an unrelenting attack on your identity or ego. For example, You’re a jerk. You’re a loser. You’re selfish. You don’t deserve me. You don’t have any friends. Your family doesn’t care about you. You don’t make enough money. These kinds of attacks have a destabilizing effect that breaks your stride and keeps you off kilter. The assault continues until you become “exhausted, confused and disoriented,” which causes your sense of self, beliefs and values to weaken.
2. Guilt.
“You are bad.” Once your identity crisis sets in, you’re then criticized for offenses great, small and imaginary. You snore. You chew your food to loudly. You’re not sensitive enough. You’re too sensitive. You breath wrong. You blink too much. You don’t fold the towels correctly. You never do this. You always do that. Why can’t you be more like so and so? The constant arguments and criticisms that cast you as the bad guy make you believe you deserve to be punished and treated badly. You feel a general sense of shame, that you’re wrong and that everything you do, don’t do, say or don’t say is wrong.
Humiliation and shaming tactics destroy your confidence and make you feel bad about yourself, which puts you in a malleable and submissive state. Shame is a form of paralysis. Inducing a sense of shame doesn’t just make you feel bad; it make you believe that you are bad.
3. Self-Betrayal.
“Agree with me that you are bad.” Because you’re now disoriented and feeling a pervasive sense of guilt and shame, she can manipulate you into going against your own best interests. You forsake your own needs and make choices that are detrimental to your well-being. This is the time when an abusive spouse or girlfriend will begin to isolate you and/or get you to turn against your friends and family. The betrayal of yourself, your beliefs and the people you once felt loyal to increases your feelings of shame, guilt and loss and also makes you easier to control.
4. Breaking Point.
“Who am I, where am I and what am I supposed to do?” You no longer know who you are. You’re confused and disoriented from gaslighting and constantly being fed a distorted version of yourself and reality. You may feel like you’re having a nervous breakdown or feel depressed, anxious, traumatized and a host of other negative emotional and physical symptoms like insomnia, paranoia and digestive problems.
You question your judgment, perceptions and sense of reality. She tells you she loves you yet continues to treat you horribly. You believe she loves you and that you must be a colossal jerk for her to always be so upset. If she’s successfully isolated you or gotten you to isolate yourself, you can’t reality test her version of events or receive outside support. By this time, she’s made you totally dependent upon her and solely focused upon pleasing her, gaining her approval and avoiding her wrath or disapproval. You probably feel completely alone. Alternatively, if you’re still in contact with friends and family, you fear that if you tell them what’s going on that they wouldn’t believe you or wouldn’t understand.
Stage II: The Possibility of Salvation
5. Leniency.
“I can help you.” This is what I like to call the tyranny of small mercies. Periodically, this kind of woman will offer you some small kindness or you’ll have a “fun” afternoon together in which she appears normal. Because your perception has been so warped, the tiniest act of kindness or absence of overt hostility and/or icy withdrawal fosters gratitude, relief and a sense of adoration within you. In reality, she’s not kind and she’s not normal.
The disparity between her bad behavior and good/neutral behavior is so great that the simple act of heating up a can of soup for you makes her seem like Lady Benevolence. Her minuscule and infrequent acts of normalcy cause you to romanticize her. “This is why I love her. She can be so sweet.” It also causes you to experience a destructive sense of false hope. “If only she could be this way all the time. Maybe she will if I just try harder to please her.” The only way you can please this kind of woman is by continuing to allow her to harm you.
6. Compulsion to Confess.
“You can help yourself.” You’re so grateful for the small kindnesses she bestows in between periods of covert and overt abuse that you agree with her criticisms and devaluations. For example, you agree that your friends are bad for you and that your family is controlling and dysfunctional (um, hello, pot meet kettle). You promise to be more attentive and sensitive to her needs and see your needs as evidence of your selfishness.
Alternatively, you agree with her just to make the rages, derision and accusations stop. By the way, this is why torture techniques don’t work for intelligence purposes. People will say anything to make the torture stop. By this time, your personality has changed. You’re hypervigilant to her moods, ego gratification demands and wishes.
You’re overwhelmed and confused by her accusations and criticisms. Subsequently, you feel a pervasive sense of shame. However, you’re so disoriented that you don’t know what you’re guilty of anymore. You just feel wrong.
The Goal: Pointless Control with No End to the Abuse
Individuals or groups who use brainwashing techniques are deliberately trying to convert followers, change political allegiance or get people to buy their brand of soda. The ultimate goal is to breakdown your identity and replace your belief system with their doctrines in order to make you an obedient follower. Once they achieve their aims, the psychological torture stops because you’ve become a faithful acolyte.
Unlike professional terrorists, cult leaders and prison camp commandants, abusive narcissistic, borderline, histrionic and sociopathic wives and girlfriends don’t have an end goal for their brainwashing techniques. They don’t know what they want. They just know that they want to control you in order to feel in control of themselves. This is why they don’t progress past the sixth brainwashing step and complete the process through the third stage, Rebuilding the Self.
By keeping you stuck in the Possibility of Salvation stage, you become locked into perpetual hoop jumping mode. She says if you do x, y and z she’ll finally be happy. You do x, y and z and then she either has a new set of expectations, demands and requirements or tells you that you didn’t do x, y and z to her satisfaction or that you only did it to make her happy not because you wanted to do it. You’re caught in a maddening cycle of trying to please her and not being able to please her with no relief or “salvation” in sight.
Abusive borderline, narcissistic and histrionic women’s moods, beliefs and realities change from day to day and, in extreme cases, minute to minute. They want whatever their current mood or insecurity dictates and change their beliefs, demands and perceptions accordingly. The only doctrine they offer is, “You’re wrong and bad” and “It’s all about me, my needs and my feelings” and “you need to fight for me” or “you need to fight for this relationship” (never mind that she is the one who is destroying it). This keeps you destabilized and in a perpetual state of guilt, shame, hypervigilance and confusion.
She puts you into no win situations, double binds and keeps raising the bar of her expectations for as long as you let her. You never get to reach the third stage of a new identity that brings some relief. She keeps you stuck in the cycle of abuse where she will psychologically torture you until there’s nothing left of you.
Next week, I will discuss other aspects and techniques of brainwashing and how you can deprogram yourself.
by Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
RTI exposes questionable dowry eradication commitment of WCD Ministry
Dowry & Extravagant marraiges affects fathers of the brides , the most, why????
We hear many women's organizations clamoring to get media attention for eradicating dowry. However they ignore the very basic fact that ultimately the daughter is just the receiver of the dowry and the actual dowry giver is ultimately a man who may be the father/brother of the bride. These males in the family work hard and spend their life’s savings to ensure that the women of their family can have a wedding of their dreams. Many fathers spend their entire PF savings and retirement benefits at the weddings of their daughters. Societal pressure accompanied with an zeal to outdo others drive these families to spend their way into bankruptcy in weddings. Many fathers are left with little or nothing left for their old age.
Whereas everybody sympathizes with the bride as a victim of dowry , no one sympathizes with the father or brother who loses his life’s savings and has little in his old age for himself and his family after spending on a extravagant marriage. So the first question we need to ask is that is the daughter the real victim of dowry or is it another man?
What has the government done so far to eradicate extravagant marraiges to reduce the burden on the bride's fathers ?
The Dowry Eradication Scam
The Women and Child Ministry and the National Commission of Women claim that they have been "hard" at work to eradicate dowry by promoting laws like 498a and DV act etc . However the most easiest way to achieve this is to is to Ban or stop promoting extravagant marriages and punish and ostracize dowry givers . However doing this will anger the marriage industry which the government does not want . The Indian marriage industry today is more than Rs 600,000 crores ( that’s about $ 150 Billion ) and no politician wants to touch the donations they get from this industry.
See Article on the size and dimensions of the Indian marraige Industry .
Lets "Decreases" the punishment for Dowry givers seems to the recommendation of the WCD Ministry
The WCD ministry naturally to protect such a big industry on one side has proposed an outrageous recommendation that they will propose to reduce the punishment for Dowry Givers . It is to be noted that even though there is punishment recommended in the Indian Penal Code for givers , not one woman or family has been convicted for giving dowry as of now. However the WCD ministry wants to believe different and knows that if Dowry is eradicated so will the Indian marriage industry and is working head over heels to safeguard it .
See article on how the Government is promoting dowry
Advertising Budget shows the true reality of WCD ministry's commitment
Eradicating dowry speeches are normally given very passionately amongst foreign delegates in 5 star hotels , all the while chomping on exquisite cuisines. at the tax payers money . However you will find the same ministers and government appointees drinking imported alcohol and dancing at extravagant weddings the very next day forgetting that if the marriage fails whatever has been spent will be called dowry. They also forget that that India has a law against giving dowry which needs to imposed .
The Women and Child development Ministry website on media activities shows that during the fiscal year of 2008-2009 they spent about Rs 52 Crores on advertising .
http://wcd.nic.in/wcdactivity/MediaUnitactivity.htm
Out of the 15 advertisements issued in the print media 4 are exclusively for the Birth and Death anniversaries of the members of the Ruling Gandhi Family . I cannot help wonder how that helps women and children of India and why is the WCD Ministry even celebrating or mourning the deaths of the members of the Gandhi Family ?
From the 52 crores they have spent so far , not a single rupee for any sort of advertisements for eradicating dowry , eradicating extravagant marriages , or creating an anti dowry hotline where exchange of dowry can be reported and givers and takers can be punished right there. An RTI was filed with the WCD ministry (see RTI response below) confirms this hypocrisy .The Ministry replies that they have spent NIL amount of money for advertising campaigns aimed at eradicating dowry and/or extravagant marraiges.
The questions remains that why has the government on one side tried to protect the marriage industry and allowed it to balloon to such mammoth proportions by allowing extravagant marriages on one side and draconised and the existing laws to show a facade of commitment to eradicating dowry? The truth of the matter is that in order to safeguard the marriage industry and the industrialists benefiting from the marriage industry the WCD ministry or the government has never stopped extravagant marriages , instead it allows the money to be spent first and then rants that dowry has been exchanged and penalizes the husband and his family. This double face by the WCD clearly shows dubious intentions.
How is Pakistan Dealing with the problem
Pakistan and India having originated from the same subcontinent 50 years ago also deals with the same problem , however the Pakistanis have found a very effective solution to curtail extravagant marraiges by implementing the one dish law.The one dish law legally controls extravagance weddings , cointrols dowry giving and provides relief to the family of the brides from spending their life's savings on marraiges .
The One dish law legally limits the numbers of dishes in any wedding to only one . Pakistan in order to save the tax payers money and provide relief to the poor masses, has made it mandatory that not more than one dish will be offered during any function, including wedding ceremonies. The Indian government should stop ranting about dowry and just implement the one dish law in India too to eradicate dowry once and for all . Lets hope what Pakistan has thought today India will think tomorrow.
We hear many women's organizations clamoring to get media attention for eradicating dowry. However they ignore the very basic fact that ultimately the daughter is just the receiver of the dowry and the actual dowry giver is ultimately a man who may be the father/brother of the bride. These males in the family work hard and spend their life’s savings to ensure that the women of their family can have a wedding of their dreams. Many fathers spend their entire PF savings and retirement benefits at the weddings of their daughters. Societal pressure accompanied with an zeal to outdo others drive these families to spend their way into bankruptcy in weddings. Many fathers are left with little or nothing left for their old age.
Whereas everybody sympathizes with the bride as a victim of dowry , no one sympathizes with the father or brother who loses his life’s savings and has little in his old age for himself and his family after spending on a extravagant marriage. So the first question we need to ask is that is the daughter the real victim of dowry or is it another man?
What has the government done so far to eradicate extravagant marraiges to reduce the burden on the bride's fathers ?
The Dowry Eradication Scam
The Women and Child Ministry and the National Commission of Women claim that they have been "hard" at work to eradicate dowry by promoting laws like 498a and DV act etc . However the most easiest way to achieve this is to is to Ban or stop promoting extravagant marriages and punish and ostracize dowry givers . However doing this will anger the marriage industry which the government does not want . The Indian marriage industry today is more than Rs 600,000 crores ( that’s about $ 150 Billion ) and no politician wants to touch the donations they get from this industry.
See Article on the size and dimensions of the Indian marraige Industry .
Lets "Decreases" the punishment for Dowry givers seems to the recommendation of the WCD Ministry
The WCD ministry naturally to protect such a big industry on one side has proposed an outrageous recommendation that they will propose to reduce the punishment for Dowry Givers . It is to be noted that even though there is punishment recommended in the Indian Penal Code for givers , not one woman or family has been convicted for giving dowry as of now. However the WCD ministry wants to believe different and knows that if Dowry is eradicated so will the Indian marriage industry and is working head over heels to safeguard it .
See article on how the Government is promoting dowry
Advertising Budget shows the true reality of WCD ministry's commitment
Eradicating dowry speeches are normally given very passionately amongst foreign delegates in 5 star hotels , all the while chomping on exquisite cuisines. at the tax payers money . However you will find the same ministers and government appointees drinking imported alcohol and dancing at extravagant weddings the very next day forgetting that if the marriage fails whatever has been spent will be called dowry. They also forget that that India has a law against giving dowry which needs to imposed .
The Women and Child development Ministry website on media activities shows that during the fiscal year of 2008-2009 they spent about Rs 52 Crores on advertising .
http://wcd.nic.in/wcdactivity/MediaUnitactivity.htm
Out of the 15 advertisements issued in the print media 4 are exclusively for the Birth and Death anniversaries of the members of the Ruling Gandhi Family . I cannot help wonder how that helps women and children of India and why is the WCD Ministry even celebrating or mourning the deaths of the members of the Gandhi Family ?
From the 52 crores they have spent so far , not a single rupee for any sort of advertisements for eradicating dowry , eradicating extravagant marriages , or creating an anti dowry hotline where exchange of dowry can be reported and givers and takers can be punished right there. An RTI was filed with the WCD ministry (see RTI response below) confirms this hypocrisy .The Ministry replies that they have spent NIL amount of money for advertising campaigns aimed at eradicating dowry and/or extravagant marraiges.
The questions remains that why has the government on one side tried to protect the marriage industry and allowed it to balloon to such mammoth proportions by allowing extravagant marriages on one side and draconised and the existing laws to show a facade of commitment to eradicating dowry? The truth of the matter is that in order to safeguard the marriage industry and the industrialists benefiting from the marriage industry the WCD ministry or the government has never stopped extravagant marriages , instead it allows the money to be spent first and then rants that dowry has been exchanged and penalizes the husband and his family. This double face by the WCD clearly shows dubious intentions.
How is Pakistan Dealing with the problem
Pakistan and India having originated from the same subcontinent 50 years ago also deals with the same problem , however the Pakistanis have found a very effective solution to curtail extravagant marraiges by implementing the one dish law.The one dish law legally controls extravagance weddings , cointrols dowry giving and provides relief to the family of the brides from spending their life's savings on marraiges .
The One dish law legally limits the numbers of dishes in any wedding to only one . Pakistan in order to save the tax payers money and provide relief to the poor masses, has made it mandatory that not more than one dish will be offered during any function, including wedding ceremonies. The Indian government should stop ranting about dowry and just implement the one dish law in India too to eradicate dowry once and for all . Lets hope what Pakistan has thought today India will think tomorrow.
WOMAN FIGHTS FOR HER HUSBAND.
THANK GOD, IN A WORLD DOMINATED BY WITCHES WHO ARE JUST ON A LOOK OUT TO SUCK THE BLOOD OF THEIR HUSBANDS AND IN-LAWS THERE ARE STILL A FEW WOMEN (AS REMAINING R WITCHES) LEFT.
Ahmedabad: The Metropolitan magistrate has directed the Vatva police to submit a status report and file an explanation regarding a complaint that they refused to register. Complainant Madina Bano had approached the Vatva police to lodge a complaint against her father Amruddin Sheikh and her four brothers, as they had threatened to kill her husband.
Bano has been married to one Mohammed Ishaq Sheikh for the last eleven years. Case details say that Bano had, due to pressure from her father and brothers, registered a case of domestic violence against her husband thrice. Each time, during the court settlement, the men extracted money from her husband.
However, for the last three years, Bano had been happy with her husband, which irked her father and brothers. A month ago, they assaulted Sheikh and threatened Bano that her husband and children would be killed, if she did not divorce him.
Following this incident, Bano went to the Vatva police on April 15 with her husband, to file a complaint against her father and brothers. However, the police refused to entertain her complaint, and she was forced to turn to a magisterial court. The magistrate directed the Vatva police to submit a status report on the issue.
http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_vatva-woman-alleges-threat-to-husband-from-her-father-brother_1383982
Ahmedabad: The Metropolitan magistrate has directed the Vatva police to submit a status report and file an explanation regarding a complaint that they refused to register. Complainant Madina Bano had approached the Vatva police to lodge a complaint against her father Amruddin Sheikh and her four brothers, as they had threatened to kill her husband.
Bano has been married to one Mohammed Ishaq Sheikh for the last eleven years. Case details say that Bano had, due to pressure from her father and brothers, registered a case of domestic violence against her husband thrice. Each time, during the court settlement, the men extracted money from her husband.
However, for the last three years, Bano had been happy with her husband, which irked her father and brothers. A month ago, they assaulted Sheikh and threatened Bano that her husband and children would be killed, if she did not divorce him.
Following this incident, Bano went to the Vatva police on April 15 with her husband, to file a complaint against her father and brothers. However, the police refused to entertain her complaint, and she was forced to turn to a magisterial court. The magistrate directed the Vatva police to submit a status report on the issue.
http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_vatva-woman-alleges-threat-to-husband-from-her-father-brother_1383982
Saturday, May 15, 2010
"A COUNTRY MESSED BY GENDER LAWS" , IN INDIA- WHO CARES?
In Independent and Free INDIA after almost 63 years of independence and democracy WHO CARES ?
* Infringement of fundamental rights of equality ?
* Laws are made gender biased?
* Legal terrorism is promoted ?
* Matrimonial laws are grossly misused ?
* Marriage is made crime?
* Extortion and blackmailing prevailing in the name of marriage ?
* Matrimonial crimes are increasing ?
* Institution of marriage diminishing ?
* Where Hon’ble Supreme Court advises MEN to be slave of wife to survive ?
* Smallest unit of democracy – Families- are breaking?
* Elders are abused and harassed ?
* Values, respect & ethics in society dying?
* Injustice & iniquity done to innocent husbands and in-laws?
* Innocents are jailed in false dowry complaints ?
* Any unnatural death of women is termed as Dowry Death ?
* Innocent husbands are suciding ?
* Husbands are treated as Free ATM machines ?
* Legal or illegal,1st , 2nd or 3rd , legitimate or ill legitimate every wife & sibling is made entitled for Maintenance from husband?
* Maintenance to wife, even if, she earns more than her husband?
* Maintenance to wife even if more qualified than her husband?
* Husband & only husband is responsible for domestic violence ?
* Legalized the Hounor Killings of husband & in-laws?
* Fathers, Son sand husbands are in deep agony?
* Mother & sisters are sobbing and harassed?
* Murderers of husband (wife and in-laws)are let off free ?
* Child is forced to be fatherless?
* Fathers are striving to see their siblings ?
* Indian Society is being made a fatherless society ?
* Failed marriage is made crime of husband ?
* There is separate ministry even for Animals but for MEN there is none ?
* Men’s sufferings goes unnoticed ?
* Young India is entangled in family & criminal courts ?
* Young brain, mind & energy is trapped in legal procedures and judicial paradigm ?
* Legalizing Gay-marriages?
* Legalizing live-in relationship?
* Legalizing pre-marital sex ?
* Adultery by female is not a crime?
Above all, this in the name of WOMAN EMPOWERMENT which is producing more & more empowered women like Madhuri & Ayesha.
Phir Bhi MERA BHARAT MAHAN per kab tak …………. ?
* Infringement of fundamental rights of equality ?
* Laws are made gender biased?
* Legal terrorism is promoted ?
* Matrimonial laws are grossly misused ?
* Marriage is made crime?
* Extortion and blackmailing prevailing in the name of marriage ?
* Matrimonial crimes are increasing ?
* Institution of marriage diminishing ?
* Where Hon’ble Supreme Court advises MEN to be slave of wife to survive ?
* Smallest unit of democracy – Families- are breaking?
* Elders are abused and harassed ?
* Values, respect & ethics in society dying?
* Injustice & iniquity done to innocent husbands and in-laws?
* Innocents are jailed in false dowry complaints ?
* Any unnatural death of women is termed as Dowry Death ?
* Innocent husbands are suciding ?
* Husbands are treated as Free ATM machines ?
* Legal or illegal,1st , 2nd or 3rd , legitimate or ill legitimate every wife & sibling is made entitled for Maintenance from husband?
* Maintenance to wife, even if, she earns more than her husband?
* Maintenance to wife even if more qualified than her husband?
* Husband & only husband is responsible for domestic violence ?
* Legalized the Hounor Killings of husband & in-laws?
* Fathers, Son sand husbands are in deep agony?
* Mother & sisters are sobbing and harassed?
* Murderers of husband (wife and in-laws)are let off free ?
* Child is forced to be fatherless?
* Fathers are striving to see their siblings ?
* Indian Society is being made a fatherless society ?
* Failed marriage is made crime of husband ?
* There is separate ministry even for Animals but for MEN there is none ?
* Men’s sufferings goes unnoticed ?
* Young India is entangled in family & criminal courts ?
* Young brain, mind & energy is trapped in legal procedures and judicial paradigm ?
* Legalizing Gay-marriages?
* Legalizing live-in relationship?
* Legalizing pre-marital sex ?
* Adultery by female is not a crime?
Above all, this in the name of WOMAN EMPOWERMENT which is producing more & more empowered women like Madhuri & Ayesha.
Phir Bhi MERA BHARAT MAHAN per kab tak …………. ?
Kannada film actor Anand held for dowry harassment
ANOTHER STORY OF BIAS AGAINST INDIAN MAN- NO MAN IS SAFE IN INDIA.
Kannada film actor Anand held for dowry harassment
Bangalore, May 14, DHNS:
Kannada film actor Anand was arrested by Basavanagudi Women’s police following a complaint by his wife alleging that he harassed her for dowry and had an affair with another girl here on Friday.
Anand, who made his debut with ‘Nannadeya Haadu’ recently, had married his girlfriend M S Bharani last year.
According to Bharani, their marriage ran into rough weather as Anand began taking interest in another girl Ramya.
Anand also reportedly attempted to poison her but she was hospitalised and recovered, she alleged in her complaint.
H T Ramesh, ACP (Banashankari sub-division) told Deccan Herald that the actor, a one-time video jockey with the Kannada music channel U2, had also allegedly demanded Rs 50 lakh from his wife. A case of dowry harassment has been registered.
Kannada film actor Anand held for dowry harassment
Bangalore, May 14, DHNS:
Kannada film actor Anand was arrested by Basavanagudi Women’s police following a complaint by his wife alleging that he harassed her for dowry and had an affair with another girl here on Friday.
Anand, who made his debut with ‘Nannadeya Haadu’ recently, had married his girlfriend M S Bharani last year.
According to Bharani, their marriage ran into rough weather as Anand began taking interest in another girl Ramya.
Anand also reportedly attempted to poison her but she was hospitalised and recovered, she alleged in her complaint.
H T Ramesh, ACP (Banashankari sub-division) told Deccan Herald that the actor, a one-time video jockey with the Kannada music channel U2, had also allegedly demanded Rs 50 lakh from his wife. A case of dowry harassment has been registered.
Harassed men want Centre’s help
READ BELOW HOW THE INDIAN MEN ARE FACING DISCRIMINATION & EXPLOITATION AT THE HANDS OF LAWS.
http://expressbuzz.com/cities/bangalore/harassed-men-want-centre%E2%80%99s-help/\
173680.html
Express News ServiceFirst Published : 15 May 2010 06:31:23 AM ISTLast Updated :
15 May 2010 06:50:01 AM IST
BANGALORE: In an attempt to turn the tide of gender equality in favour of men,
various pro-men organisations have asked the Centre to form a National
Commission for Men.
In a joint press conference of the Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF),
Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) and All India
Mother-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF) on Friday, members vouched for a
commission for men to address their issues.
CRISP president Kumar Jahagirdhar said even 63 years after independence, not a
single rupee was allotted for men's welfare in India.
"Every year, around 58,000 married men are committing suicides, which is double
the number of married women as per the National Crime Records Bureau," he added.
There are other issues such as unemployment, sexual harassment, domestic
violence, dowry harassment, heart attacks and various ailments, which need to be
studied in detail and addressed.
Other demands raised in the conference included scrapping section 498A (cruelty
by husband and relatives) of the Indian Penal Code, scrapping the current form
of Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act and to rewrite it by
incorporating representation from husbands and their parents.
Vivek of SIFF said they would initiate a `Family breaking awareness month'
campaign from May 15. The campaign will create awareness about breaking of
families due to laws and biases against husbands and fathers.
http://expressbuzz.com/cities/bangalore/harassed-men-want-centre%E2%80%99s-help/\
173680.html
Express News ServiceFirst Published : 15 May 2010 06:31:23 AM ISTLast Updated :
15 May 2010 06:50:01 AM IST
BANGALORE: In an attempt to turn the tide of gender equality in favour of men,
various pro-men organisations have asked the Centre to form a National
Commission for Men.
In a joint press conference of the Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF),
Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) and All India
Mother-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF) on Friday, members vouched for a
commission for men to address their issues.
CRISP president Kumar Jahagirdhar said even 63 years after independence, not a
single rupee was allotted for men's welfare in India.
"Every year, around 58,000 married men are committing suicides, which is double
the number of married women as per the National Crime Records Bureau," he added.
There are other issues such as unemployment, sexual harassment, domestic
violence, dowry harassment, heart attacks and various ailments, which need to be
studied in detail and addressed.
Other demands raised in the conference included scrapping section 498A (cruelty
by husband and relatives) of the Indian Penal Code, scrapping the current form
of Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act and to rewrite it by
incorporating representation from husbands and their parents.
Vivek of SIFF said they would initiate a `Family breaking awareness month'
campaign from May 15. The campaign will create awareness about breaking of
families due to laws and biases against husbands and fathers.
Woman plots to kill husband, held with lover
SEE THE TRUE FACE OF WICKED INDIAN WOMEN:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Woman-plots-to-kill-husband-held-with-lover/articleshow/5932667.cms
NEW DELHI: A 24-year-old woman along with her lover has been arrested by west district police for allegedly attempting to murder her husband. The accused have been identified as Reena (24) and Satish Kumar Chauhan (21).
The police said Reena and her husband, Om Prakash, were intercepted by two bikers in Hari Nagar on May 7. The bikers tried to snatch Reena's gold chain. When Om Prakash intervened, he was stabbed several times. When the police investigated the incident, it found clues indicating that the snatching incident could have been stagemanaged.
"The number of stab injuries sustained by the victim indicated robbery alone might not be the motive for this crime. We also noticed contradictions in the statements given by Reena. Though Om Prakash had sustained grievous injuries, his wife did not have any injury or abrasion on her neck. This raised some questions," said DCP (west) Sharad Agarwal.
The police spoke to family members and one of them revealed that Om Prakash was not on good terms with his wife.
"We found during the investigation that Reena used to talk to Chauhan frequently on phone," added DCP Agarwal.
Chauhan was living in the neighbourhood of Om Prakash for the past three years. Om Prakash's nephew, Deepak, introduced Chauhan to his uncle and he started visiting his house frequently. "He developed an intimacy with Reena and the two decided to live together. They came so close to each other that they went a temple in November 2009 and accepted each other as a husband and wife in an unconventional ceremony," said a police officer.
Om Prakash got suspicious of his wife as she used to talk a lot on her mobile phone. When he objections, she complained about it to Satish. "They hatched a conspiracy to eliminate Om Prakash," added the officer. The police said they have seized the knife with which Om Prakash was stabbed. The couple were married for past two and half years and had two children.
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NEW DELHI: A 24-year-old woman along with her lover has been arrested by west district police for allegedly attempting to murder her husband. The accused have been identified as Reena (24) and Satish Kumar Chauhan (21).
The police said Reena and her husband, Om Prakash, were intercepted by two bikers in Hari Nagar on May 7. The bikers tried to snatch Reena's gold chain. When Om Prakash intervened, he was stabbed several times. When the police investigated the incident, it found clues indicating that the snatching incident could have been stagemanaged.
"The number of stab injuries sustained by the victim indicated robbery alone might not be the motive for this crime. We also noticed contradictions in the statements given by Reena. Though Om Prakash had sustained grievous injuries, his wife did not have any injury or abrasion on her neck. This raised some questions," said DCP (west) Sharad Agarwal.
The police spoke to family members and one of them revealed that Om Prakash was not on good terms with his wife.
"We found during the investigation that Reena used to talk to Chauhan frequently on phone," added DCP Agarwal.
Chauhan was living in the neighbourhood of Om Prakash for the past three years. Om Prakash's nephew, Deepak, introduced Chauhan to his uncle and he started visiting his house frequently. "He developed an intimacy with Reena and the two decided to live together. They came so close to each other that they went a temple in November 2009 and accepted each other as a husband and wife in an unconventional ceremony," said a police officer.
Om Prakash got suspicious of his wife as she used to talk a lot on her mobile phone. When he objections, she complained about it to Satish. "They hatched a conspiracy to eliminate Om Prakash," added the officer. The police said they have seized the knife with which Om Prakash was stabbed. The couple were married for past two and half years and had two children.
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